Should I let an ex-friend back into my life

I was wondering if I should let an ex-friend back into my life. Usually I don't do this if they were not good friends, and this friend was one of them. She always took advantage of me and only talked to me when she had no one else to talk to. But now she says she is sorry, she knows she treated me like **** and she really does like me as a friend. Also she talks about other people a lot and once even tried to convince me that someone else is faking a friendship with me. She was also not a good listener. Feel like I shouldn't let her but not sure. I feel like she is bluffing but not sure. Should I let her back into my life or no? I never had an ex-friend admit to me that they treated me like **** and wanted to be friends with me. That's why I am confused, normally I would say no but in this case, I am not sure.

Well... you could certainly give her a try. You know what the potential problems are. So you can be alert for them. Everyone (well... almost everyone) deserves a second chance. I don't know how involved your previous relationship with this person was. But this time around, just take it slow & see how it goes. Who knows? She might turn out to be a great friend. And great friends are hard to come by.

Of course, the other possibility is that she has her own mental health issues. If this is the case, things may not be better this time, even if she is sincere in wanting them to. But the only way you'll find out for sure is to give her a chance.

i would say no, only because you yourself pointed out all of her negative qualities. while everyone has negative qualities, you should surround yourself with people who will lift you up and make you better.. not people who don't listen and are self-absorbed.

Best of luck

There is no reason to reinstate this relationship. She is not looking to be a good friend to you. She just wants to keep you on ice for when she has nothing better to do. That will only lead to more hurt for you.

an old friend has really rinsed me.. I kinda deserved it...even so, after everything.. I miss her desperately. I don't know if we'll ever build trust again or even if we can be reconciled. I hope so N. missing u

Unless you want never ending drama and tension in your life, i would take a pass.

People don't change, leave it be.

Kudos to her for apologising. Sometimes its tough to say your sorry but if someone rejects that apology it can be pretty hurtful.

I would say, accept her apology but don't have any expectations of her. Its our own expectations of a friendship that let us down.

You can be civil to one another without it ever having to go back to what it was. I don't have friends who talk and gossip about other people we know and like. If someone tries that with me I will always say, "wow, how can you say that?; so and so is a really nice person and she thinks the world of you". Spiteful people will not only talk about your other friends to you but about you to them when your not around. Stopping them doing it is very satisfying.

Also think on, she's like she is because she basically has problems and if her problems start to bother/drain you, then you have to question how valid your friendship with her is. Take control of that friendship and allow as much or as little as you want to give.