[heidi71]

Hi, I am new here and have never done this but I am so alone and in serious need of help.
Not sure what I am meant to do. Have such feelings of giving up.
I have one scrappy relationship after the other. My current partner I thought was goi g to work.
But I was wrong. At least he does not beat me. I have my own business and I have my own house and just moved in with my partner, thinking it wot all be great but he has changed. He seems to be so angry at me since I moved in. The other day he had an appointment I had to be home by 1pm to take him. Got home at 1.01 and he was not impressed. I tried to Fix it and he went off. He did not speak to me for over a day and then I went to him and apologize d but I did not feel I did something so bad to warrant his reaction and then the next day when I apologize d he has been weird ever since. He works away and for 2 weeks then home for 4 days that's his cycle. We never have sex he brags how he masturbate s when he is away. We have no time together as he also has his 14yr old daughter with us for those 5 days. I have no friends or family here. I feel so alone I can hardly breathe I am so anxious all the time. I just want to give up I have had enough of all the hard ship and being strong. Please someone help me

[sideblinded]

First, welcome to PC. I am sorry that you are so alone and struggling. It sounds like an awful situation. Have you tried counseling? It sounds like he is not giving you the attention that you need to be in a relationship with him. If you are feeling alone like that, maybe when he gets home and you two have privacy, tell him how you feel. It would be worth your sanity and well being to be honest and tell him that you are not happy with this relationship. Maybe it will get him to think. We all need human interaction and not having family or friends near is not worth much. Depending upon how he reacts I would decide to myself whether or not I am staying and what my next step would be to help myself.

Best wishes.

[Bill3]

I did not feel I did something so bad to warrant his reaction

I agree completely.

We never have sex he brags how he masturbate s when he is away.

What a cruel thing to say.

(((((heidi71)))))

What if you go back to your own house and move on from him?

[ptangptang]

'At least he doesn't beat me'. Is that the basis of a relationship? Erm not really sure why you are with him. If you have your own business and can support yourself why put up with being so miserable, unless you think he might change.

[~Christina]

He is emotionally abusing you, and your statement of "at least he doesn't beat me" He shows no respect towards you. Have you been emotionally and physically abused in the past? Have you gone to Therapy to process it all and build your self esteem.

The chances of him changing and having a healthy relationship with him are i would say zero, it's best to end this relationship and move back into your home.

Please seek out Therapy, You will learn the way a healthy relationship should be, because without respect , well your just a doormat. YOU deserve much better, never settle.

Welcome to PC