What to do... what to do... got back with an old boyfriend...

and he's asked me to move in with him (he just bought a house). It wasn't a bad break up... it just got too hard... we lived 2.5 hours apart, he couldn't find a job and was living with his parents, and he didn't have a license. Now, we each have moved a half hour closer to one another (1 hour apart now), he bought a house in the fall, has a really good job, and there's a lot more jobs that pay better than my current job that I hate and they're all for things I like to do. I'm actually thinking hard about it... it'd make things easier on both of us, and I love him... just haven't told him yet. I'm going out to see him next weekend, and that will probably push me one way or the other... any advice?

lisa

think about it a lot.......talk to your friends.......post here.........xoxo pat i gotta go to work.

Take your time and think about it. Moving in with somebody is a step all by itself. It sounds as if you like this guy alot, I'd say follow your heart and see where it leads you, but don't completely ignore your head.

Thanks you guys. I think I'll wait and see how the weekend goes... if he keeps house like his mom, I'll be back fast! Actually, on his last visit to see me at the old apartment, he did some of the things I'd put off because I'm short and they're a pain in the back to do. Also, want to tell him about the bipolar diagnosis face to face... I don't think it'll scare him, though... he's seen me manic and he's seen me sliding down to the dumps. He just rolls with the punches, so to speak. Hmmm... now I gotta decide what I want to wear... eeeeeeek!

Good luck, Lisad. Is it possible that you might be able to date a while, spend weekends together, before making such a big step?

Listen to your inner wisdom, it is there.

lol, there's a reason ex's are ex's......think of that, an don't move in unless you're positive it's gunna work out, cuz he could kick you out at any point, and do you really want to be a homeless person?

hi lisa!

is moving in with him, necessary at this time? I mean, if you'd like to have your relationship back again, why don't you make it work first, the relationship, before moving in the same house together. telling him about the bipolar diagnosis face to face is really the best thing to do. Keeping an open communication in your relationship is one factor you must maintain.

good luck