[Iknowiamworthit]

Hey moderator can you help combine this post to my old one i accidentally sent that in without finishing :-( thank you so much didnt mean to trouble you at all.

So my dad made facebook in early 2013 and didn't allow me to add him in there as he claimed that there are a lot of his guy friends on it and wouldn't want them to go around adding me up. I accepted that reason tho i was really pissed at first.

I am an over thinker. I really think deep into things. My dad's action has got me thinking about a lot of things.

He then downloaded an app. That acts like whatsapp but not many people uses it. I was very curious of the reason to that. But he told me that its cos his frien told him to download it.

What happens next go me really sad. I went to stalk his facebook. No posts, no profile pictures or even any pictures. He only added his few close friends. But what caught my attention was some foreign looking ladies on his friend list. I don't remember knowing them, not my relatives. Not do i recall my father has friends from overseas as young as that.

I realized that my dad might have been adding up random foreign females that has caught his attention. But why would he do that?? Why would he keep sexy pictures in his phone? Isn't my mum enough for him to look at?
Why is he adding random females up on facebook? Isn't my mum enough.

My mum has been under a lot of stress due to work lately and i wouldn't want to tell her about it yet. But its taking a toll on me. I am feeling terrible. I am feeling sad. I can't picture myself living with this thoughts haunting me. I have never felts this sad before. I am at the
Lowest point in my life. I can't take it. I dont want my family to fall apart. What happens if he is doing more that just befriending them on facebook?

I am really scared. I can't take it. Help?? </3

[Iknowiamworthit]

I grew up in a school with a positive environment. Everyone was really supportive of each other, fights and arguments were very rare. There we don't really back bite each other nor do we do things that will hurt Other's feeling. I grew up in a church based environment (my school's church based). I didnt really know how the outside world is like until i finished studying there and went for college.

And there, i got bullied. To others it may sound like its nothing. But i was bullied and it was something new for me. Didn't know the outside world would be this harsh. This cruel. I cried a lot during that period. I was close to my mum and she was the one i called up everytime i needed someone to talk to. I had the worst days of my life, before i decided to leave. I changed school.

After the bullying happened (the bullying wasnt that serious but it was a big deal to me) i became very cold towards people.

I am generally a very outgoing person, i find it easy talking to strangers and making friends.

But ever since the bullying happens, i find it difficult to befriend people and opening up to them in a long run. U couldn't be myself around people as i was scared of being judged (like the days i was bullied).

I find difficulties opening up to people until now. I still have difficulties going to school everyday. But no one understand. Everyone thinks that im a lazy bum. But id love to go to school but the thoughts of being judged (and later feel like im being bullied all over again) keeps on coming back.

My mum doesn't understand. No one understands this feeling. Help?

[hvert]

I'm sorry you got bullied in college. Are you still going? How much longer do you have? I think it is good to stand up for yourself when you can. Perhaps you could transfer to a new school?

With regard to your father, I would probably let him keep it private. You don't really know what kind of interaction he is having with those women - it could be that they asked him to be friends and he said yes even though he doesn't know them.

I think it's really a good idea to stay as far out of your parent's marriage as possible, personally. It just gets too awkward. I would stop looking at your father's Facebook and try to put that out of your mind as much as you can if I were in your shoes.

[avlady]

yes, your dad needs his privacy, just like you too. most parents and kids dont like each other to be in each others business. there is also a certain degree of pictures etc. that most women might not really care. my husband has a picture of a gorgeous woman on his key chain, i don't mind. i know he loves me, i want to let him look, but don't touch-just joking.