[FlowerChild67]

Let me first start of with that I have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and aspergers.

p { margin-bottom: 0.1in; line-height: 120%; } My latest obsession and/or possible rejection is a new roommate. I use to live with just one roommate and then he brought a girl here. I have very strong feeling for her when I first met her. He moved her in and they are dating, but when he leaves for work she flirts very strongly with me. I don't know what to do with this situation. I will feel rejected if her flirts are just a game, but if we were to get together then my living situation will become very complicated and we would have to move. I liked living here when it was just the two of us but he moved her in and another girl moved in so now there is 4 of us living in a small 2 bedroom apartment. I can't afford to move as the rent is cheap and I have the master bedroom with my own bathroom. So please any advice on how not to possible feel rejected or abandoned in this very tricky situation.
p { margin-bottom: 0.1in; line-height: 120%;My latest obsession and/or possible rejection is a new roommate. I use to live with just one roommate and then he brought a girl here. I have very strong feeling for her when I first met her. He moved her in and they are dating, but when he leaves for work she flirts very strongly with me. I don't know what to do with this situation. I will feel rejected if her flirts are just a game, but if we were to get together then my living situation will become very complicated and we would have to move. I liked living here when it was just the two of us but he moved her in and another girl moved in so now there is 4 of us living in a small 2 bedroom apartment. I can't afford to move as the rent is cheap and I have the master bedroom with my own bathroom. So please any advice on how not to possible feel rejected or abandoned in this very tricky situation.

[sideblinded]

Hi

I was wondering if there are 2 bedrooms and you are saying 4 are living there, is the other girl your girlfriend? This sounds s little confusing. It also sounds a bit too cramped. I would talk to your friend and find out how committed he is to her as she doesn't sound that committed to him if she is flirting with you. You might save him from a very bad relationship down the road but it could also end your and his friendship if he finds out. This is a tough one.

[Bill3]

One idea would be to ask the flirter to stop, and tell her that you won't get involved with someone who is already in another relationship and in fact is actually living with your roommate.

And also, remember this: if she flirts with you while dating your roommate, you can expect her to flirt with someone else when she is dating you.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Bill3

One idea would be to ask the flirter to stop, and tell her that you won't get involved with someone who is already in another relationship and in fact is actually living with your roommate.

And also, remember this: if she flirts with you while dating your roommate, you can expect her to flirt with someone else when she is dating you.

Your situation is messy and best to clear it up sooner rather than later.

[FlowerChild67]

sideblinded I am not dating anyone in the house i have the master bedroom to myself the other girl has the second bedroom and the other 2 are in the livingroom. the 2 in the livingroom are a couple but the girl flirts when the man is at work. She is Bi-Sexual.

[FlowerChild67]

Bill3 I like to feel like someone would want me. It has been 15 years since I have been in a relationship.

[Bill3]

SamantaAnne even when a person really wants to feel wanted it is important to look for safe people. Right now her behavior suggests to me that a relationship with her could jeopardize your emotional health, your living arrangement, and your relationship with your roommate. She does not sound safe to me.

(((((SamanthaAnne)))))

[toolman65]

How do you know that she is flirting just with you? She may be that way with everyone. "flirts very strongly" what does that mean? Can you give examples?

You feel vulnerable and the attention feels so good, but this situation is a time bomb waiting to go off.

Will it feel so good when you lose the apartment, the friends and her attention?

This may be part of a larger plan to get you out and them into the master bedroom. Just sayin.

Who's name is on the lease, btw?

If you are afraid of being alone with her then you'd better make some changes. Your roommate should also be made aware of this situation.

[FlowerChild67]

toolman65 me and the male in the apartment are on the lease. They don't want this room it has to many bad memory for the male.