He mentioned Internet pornography...

Okay...I know this old college boyfriend, now age 60, is a NO go, but I got an email from him this evening that has left me offended. He just got his Internet hooked up, so we could email, and after deleting all his emails, feeling he is a Narcissist, he write this evening...Much about himself, and also mentioning that he looked for "porno" on his computer. I'm appalled and offended!
My instinct is to reply saying pornography is offensive to me, and the fact that he mentioned it is insulting.
Or, should I just not reply at all?
I sense an underlying hatred of women, and people in general from him. Maybe just delete?
At the same time, I feel like setting him straight....about a LOT of things!
Your opinions please!
Patty

wow. well at least he was upfront but like you I think it is a no go as well. I know I wouldn't want a relationship like that.

i think you owe yourself the respect of telling him that you're offended. tell him that his internet address will now be blocked. tell him to not contact you again. tell him to go to hell ....(for me)

Well, I have been feeling like the whole correspondence over many months has been insulting. Maybe it's the full moon that beamed on me as I drove home from my grad class this evening, but I DID write a response, stating how degrading pornography is to both women and men! Also called him a narcissist, and that there is no further basis for communication. If I get a response from him, it will, no doubt, be full of insults and explitives.
Patty

Pat,
I hadn't even thought about blocking his email messages.
At this point, I have to say, I would like to hear what he has to say about being called on his behavior.
When we were young and in college together, none of my female friends could stand him. I was so naive and lacking in self-identity, I let much of his behavior pass. Those girlfriends had much more on the ball than I did.
Also, I am thinking that he has probably never, I mean NEVER, been identified for what he truly is. IF he responds, it will be interesting, and therapeutic, for me to hear.
Patty

just ignore it. That's what I'd do.

if he is as i suspect, he's been enabled by the women in his life......mother, sisters, etc. there actually are men who get away with anything because no one around them had enough self-respect to tell them to shut the hell up.

i have a brother that i don't speak to due to his insulting and demeaning behavior towards women. my sisters enable him and "feel sorry" for him, "as he is lonely".....hell, yes, he's lonely. he deserves to be lonely.......

and this guy will probably really go off on you. let it roll off your back and block his e.mail address afterwards......love ya, pat

Today, I've been surprised at my email response to him last night, dreading to see a response from him in my email, but none has appeared. I suspect he is baffled and very angry, and when and if I get a reply it will be very caustic and insulting, not only to me but to women in general.
Pat, you have described this man to a T! You have great insights...enabled and coddled by mother and sister.
At my age, I can no longer accomodate a self-absorbed man, and because of previous experiences, had promised myself if the mention of pornography as a pastime came up, I'd speak up immediately (having held my tongue in the unfortunate past!).
Also, having been the victim of a conniving Narcissist, my antennae are on red flag alert, I guess.
Narcissists cannot stand to be criticized, and always turn the tables to the person giving the critique. I have no sympathy.
Patty

Hi Seeker,

Pornography is demeaning to both sexes.

I'm glad he's leaving you alone.

Hugs,

EJ

If this was me I would send a short email stating "I am not interested in porno what I use my computer for is..." then list some appropiate things that you are interested in. he will get the point that you are not going to talk about porn with him.