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#1
Apr 02, 2007, 04:00 AM
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I have a small drama.
I am sort of seeing my ex - the one in another city, I see him every 2 weeks or so as each of us travel for work. It's been easy, it's not completely serious, but I do still have a lot of feelings for him. And we have mooted the idea of moving overseas together, etc. So over the weekend I bumped into a friend on MSN who has just got back from a couple months kickboxing (yea ok it's the guy in the health food guru thread of mine). We never went out but I think it's safe to say we considered hooking up - dunno really why we didn't. I think he was sort of seeing someone, maybe I was too. So we had both got home from being out at some wack time of the morning and the conversation got kinda ummm saucy ... and a little drunken-fuelled ... I don't know why I didn't just cab over to his house but I don't think I ever really thought of that. I was having an interesting time though :> So anyway he has just brought it up again (dead sober on a Monday night). I don't really know whether to chase it or not ... he works in advertising, cut bod, he's intelligent, funny, dresses absolutely beautifully. We like a lot of the same stz ... down to the same 1971 Buick Riviera ... He is the only guy I know as comfortable giving me clothes advice or taking me shopping as he is away in the bush hunting with the boys for the weekend. Sigh ... I don't know if I'm in the right head space to pursue it ... Something is clicking in my head about a conversation about three years ago ... his sister or friend is bipolar and he has had a lot of issues with her being pretty out of wack ... I could not tell him about my d-word as a result. I remember he used to get very very upset about it ... I think he was put in situations. I really don't know what to do. I know coffees and drinks are good starts ... I just don't want to start something I am not sure if I could ever finish. It's no biggie just something else to think about ... I don't think I'd be a very good 'proper girlfriend' right now. SIgh. |
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#2
Apr 02, 2007, 04:07 AM
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hmmmmmm, an interesting dilema. I'd way the odds........ lose this boy friend, and seek out a reletionship with this other guy, or stay with the boy toy, and forget the new guy. I'd sleep on it........... but remember, ex's are ex's for a reason, and you never did break up with this other guy.......... so maybe you should give him a chance. Hell if you were real daring, you could balance them both and see whatr happens.......... but it isn't very nice to do so, so maybe you shouldn't. Huh..........I don't know for sure what I'd do, but I think I would dump the old guy since he is an ex, and I would go galavanting after this new man........ he sounds kool!
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#3
Apr 02, 2007, 04:19 AM
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galavanting!
i likes :> the thing with the ex is it's safe ... we understand where things are at the moment ... we have talked about me moving back to wellington (i can work in our offices there at any stage) ... we have talked about travel. i haven't pushed anything cos of the head space of late and i am pretty sure he understands that. he doesn't know i'm taking any meds for it. he knows everything is a bit messy after a drunken episode one night a couple of months ago. sigh. the good thing about seeing someone new ... would be that it's a fresh start but it's with someone i know already ... we have drifted apart a little in the last year, but the basis is there ... he's being cheeky about the other night ... and me falling asleep ... ooops! maybe i am ready for a flirtation at least :> |
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#4
Apr 02, 2007, 10:13 AM
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being with an ex can be dodgy and like GPG said - he is an ex for a reason!!!!
give into something new - with no strings attached, go in with no expectations - the two of you might surprise each other and FUN!!!!. he sounds like fun..and someone who is able to tease you and you able to laff about it, he is definately worth a chance.
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#5
Apr 02, 2007, 10:54 AM
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(((sunflower)))
What's the d word? I agree with whoever said he's an ex for a reason-on the other hand you can put what I know about dating and premarital relationships in a thimble. Meta
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#6
Apr 03, 2007, 06:01 AM
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oh d word is d_________n that i like to avoid saying.
I don't know. This other one has his own issues. Sigh. 
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#7
Apr 03, 2007, 06:39 AM
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okay i am also want to know what the D is for????
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#8
Apr 03, 2007, 06:46 AM
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depression but i dont like calling it that
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#9
Apr 03, 2007, 01:58 PM
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well, if the flirtation is there, then there must be something there worth exploring........I say go for it.......... what have you got to lose....... other than someone who you lost b4? Besides, new reletionships are a blast!
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I am a very shy quiet person that wants to be able to have a place to just talk, where nobody knows my facade, and won't judge me, but maybe just maybe, will end up liking me for me. Odd concept in todays world, I know, but a girl can dream. |
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#10
Apr 04, 2007, 04:33 PM
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I am contemplating hooking up for a coffee or drink next week.
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