Question for you fine ladies here. My situation is I'm fairly new into this bipolar treatment. I'm a middle aged single male. I may get ssdi, but I may not. Either way, getting back to work is/will be a struggle to say the least. I have a physical impairment as well (degenerative disc disease).

Anyway, I don't won't to have to be confined living like a kid the rest of my life because it's not healthy for my mind, and remember it's bipolar. My question is, do you females think it's possible for me to find me a lady friend? At what age does keeping up with the Jones' end, and just living and enjoying having a mate for companionship enter into ladies lives?

Perhaps it's me, as I live in very small house, but I can ride 3 miles and look at houses in excess of 10,000 sq.ft. and cost over a mil. It makes me feel like such a loser and makes me feel as though no local lady folks would have anything to do with me.

Does any of the above make sense, or am I just a lost, hopeless, and worthless cause.

I'm not looking for generalized feel good type responses. Serious only, because a lot of folks believe that everyone has mental issues, which I tend to agree. I'm thinking that some are affected more than others, and a lot of crap just rolled me over like a steamroller. Finding me a lady friend could be vital in my recovery to a more functioning human, but it would make me feel like a user, so I'm not inclined to even try.

Ladies, I would be grateful for any advice.

[jelly-bean]

Here is an answer from one lady. I don't care about a man's health issues.....I have some too. I also don't care about the size of a house or a wallet. I can take care of myself. What I am interested in is the real person who lives inside the body. I am interested in what he thinks, his sense of humor, his integrity, his capacity for compassion and caring, spontaneity. In general, what sort of person he is. You are most certainly not a lost, hopeless and worthless cause. You are just lonely and I know that somewhere out there is a woman who is looking for you so just keep going and see what happens.

[Frankbtl]

Hi Lunatic Fringe, not saying that you couldn't develop a really meaningful relationship with a partner regardless of the bipolar......but I'm not so sure you want to be finding a relationship as a stage in recovery alone.
I'd say that recovery is going to be much stronger when it doesn't depend on someone else or on a relationship. It does need to be about you.
And if some of that is pretty much based on the positives in a relationship........well you know the score, relationships can often have their less positive times too.........So maybe keep the focus with the recovery more on yourself, a lot less complicated too!!!
But yes, back to a relationship........maybe it's a natural thing that you want a relationship as well???
If so, then having a small house, not working..........absolutely doesn't make you a loser......find the right person and they're going to know that there are so many much more important things in a relationship than money or material things. In fact money doesn't need to come into it at all. So a bit more focus on your good qualities, hey??!!
And anyone who would only want to know you if you had a large house ect. you shouldn't want to know them even if you did have a large house ect.
But believe me not everyone is going to be like that.
Alison

[hvert]

I don't think I can add anything to the two posts above!

I think you can find someone, even if you don't have a million dollar house. People in apartments find dates!

[divine1966]

Size of your house wouldn't matter unless a woman is s gold digger. I can't care less about size of the house. There are women out there and good luck!!!

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