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Hello All --
Is anyone else alone for the holiday? Christmas, New Year's, whatever the holiday, I am alone, usually grading and working.
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I'm usually alone on holidays too. I'm alone today. Tomorrow, I'm going to have dinner with my parents and my sister's family. When I had agoraphobia, I was alone on holidays -- apart from visits from family.
I'm usually alone on holidays because I want to be, though. On Christmas, I choose not to spend Christmas Eve and Christmas morning with the rest of my family at my sister's house. I just go out for the afternoon and Christmas dinner. I don't like holidays much. They tend to depress me, so I prefer to be by myself. When I'm around my family I try to FORCE myself to be festive, and it's hard work, so I do it in small doses. I think it bothers me that I don't have a husband and kids of my own to spend holidays with... that's a big part of why I would prefer to forget that it's even a "special day." There's too much pressure to be happy on holidays... and that pressure makes me feel worse. I skipped New Year's Eve with my friends this year, because over the past few years, they have all gotten married and started having kids. I didn't feel like being the only single person at the party.
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a friend is here and we are re-organizing my kitchen and arguing.
![]() we're hanging a pot rack (a screen door decorative grill painted red) and threw out the big huge microwave and my daughter gave me her smaller one. i was alone Christmas......usually am......... |
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I'm usually alone on holidays too. This Easter I'm alone as well. I took a break from the diet
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*Raises hand.* My boyfriend got invited by church friends to dinner. Usually, his sister does something, and he goes to that, but she didn't this year. I'm invited, but I can't go to other people's houses, so I stay home. I feel kind of mixed about it. On the one hand, I don't want to keep my bf from doing stuff, just because I can't, but on the other hand, I'd like him to stay home with me, just once in a while, because I can't and he wants to support me.
I wanted to go out to a book store (which we did yesterday, admittedly), but my bf said he didn't know if he'd feel like it, and didn't make any promises. Still, I don't get out that much, so I look forward to getting out on the weekends, on both days when possible. He felt like having dinner with his friends, though. Wouldn't mind some Peeps or something...I didn't get any candy this year. It's a good thing...but I kind of wish I had. I could have. Just seemed like I was "being good" when I didn't. Not that I avoided candy itself...whatever, I'm blabbering. ![]() I'm hoping I can talk my bf into bringing home a sub or something when he calls. Normally, we'd go out today, so I'd get to eat out.
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I agree that the forced (at least for me) atmosphere of festivity is stressful. These replies made me stop and remember how I set things this way for myself by foreclosing on other options. Thanks.
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i am one of those people, wants, who can't be forced to be festive for festive's sake. what you see is what you get. so, i'd rather be here than feeling all stressed out with the small talk and such at the dinner today..........no festive here........
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Yup, I'm definitely a WSIWIG myself.
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