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Old Mar 07, 2015, 09:41 PM
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No, I don't want universal acceptance and approval. But it's not so much about individual people objecting as much as it is about the fact that most younger girls would judge me negatively for being interested in them.

How do you know? You aren't dating or even attempting it. You don't know if they will judge. Even if they reject it it could be for many other reasons.

And you have to stop living your life by what your younger brother says. Honestly it doesn't make sense.

You waste energy on arguing with anonymous people on the Internet about some perceived injustice. You could spend time improving social skills so you can finally date real girls! Not argue with us whom you don't even know.

Please just make an effort

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Come on Shadix. First you come on here like you're socially awkward with asking girls out and looking for advice. Then it turns out you're really looking to score with young girls (over 18 of course).
And why does it matter the age of the girls I am looking to date? Actually, I am looking to date girls I LIKE regardless of their age. But yes, most of those will be younger, since girls my age are more likely to be either in committed relationships or looking for marriage. That's just a fact. You and others like you are basically suggesting that I should limit myself to only women my age and older.

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Suddenly your picky about getting a younger girl on your arm to show off to your buddies.
When did I suggest that it had anything to do with showing them off to my buddies? You are just assuming that based on the preconceived notions you have of why guys date younger women.

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Your not looking for a real relationship but some fun in the sun.
And? What's wrong with that? Most young people just pursue casual dating relationships with whoever they find themselves attracted to and they only think about getting serious after they have been together and developed feelings for each other. Why is it wrong for me to do that? Am I supposed to be desperately seeking marriage just because most women my age are?

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You won't get any sympathy from me. My husband left me for a younger girl with two kids mind you (not his). He was having a midlife crisis I suppose.
What does your idiot husband have to do with me??? Am I married? Do I have kids? Am I middle aged? You make no sense. And you're not the first woman I've encountered online with this kind of mentality.

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This kind of thing happens all too often and THAT is why many people frown on the older man/younger girl combo.
So because some men leave their wives for younger women, it is justified to hate on ALL men who date younger women? But of course, if I posted saying I only wanted to date older women, you would probably be encouraging me. This is exactly the vile sexist mentality I am talking about. It is amazing to me how people shamelessly admit the fact that they feel this way.

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It's not just YOU, it's any man in the position of going after a young girl to make them feel young again.
And what makes you think this is why men date younger women? Did you ever consider that maybe the guy just happens to like her regardless of her age?

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Good luck with the young'uns.
Don't give me that. You don't wish me good luck. Like you said, you have no sympathy for me. You wish me failure and misery.

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Old Mar 08, 2015, 12:52 AM
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I am almost 27. I am talking mainly with regards to 18-22 year old girls.
When I was 20, I met a guy at college who was 28, and we dated for awhile. I didn't think it was odd. No one else seemed to think it was odd.

If you get interested in a girl 20 years old, she is 7 years younger than you. That is not extremely uncommon. (About 10% of married men have wives who are 7 or more years younger than they are.) See this article for statistics: Age disparity in sexual relationships - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

If you're the one who is inhibited about trying to date women under age 22, then don't. You're free to do as you like.
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Old Mar 08, 2015, 03:12 AM
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And why does it matter the age of the girls I am looking to date? Actually, I am looking to date girls I LIKE regardless of their age. But yes, most of those will be younger, since girls my age are more likely to be either in committed relationships or looking for marriage. That's just a fact. You and others like you are basically suggesting that I should limit myself to only women my age and older.


When did I suggest that it had anything to do with showing them off to my buddies? You are just assuming that based on the preconceived notions you have of why guys date younger women.


And? What's wrong with that? Most young people just pursue casual dating relationships with whoever they find themselves attracted to and they only think about getting serious after they have been together and developed feelings for each other. Why is it wrong for me to do that? Am I supposed to be desperately seeking marriage just because most women my age are?


What does your idiot husband have to do with me??? Am I married? Do I have kids? Am I middle aged? You make no sense. And you're not the first woman I've encountered online with this kind of mentality.


So because some men leave their wives for younger women, it is justified to hate on ALL men who date younger women? But of course, if I posted saying I only wanted to date older women, you would probably be encouraging me. This is exactly the vile sexist mentality I am talking about. It is amazing to me how people shamelessly admit the fact that they feel this way.


And what makes you think this is why men date younger women? Did you ever consider that maybe the guy just happens to like her regardless of her age?


Don't give me that. You don't wish me good luck. Like you said, you have no sympathy for me. You wish me failure and misery.

What do you care what anonymous people on the Internet think of you or of dating young girls? There are as many opinions as there are people so what does it matter? You don't know us. Why don't you make that therapist appointment you talked about and hopefully just focus on your own life .

When you are preoccupied with what your brother thinks at at least you know him! You don't know people in the Internet

I had to laugh about "women your age desperately seeking marriage" lol you are 26. Lol 26 year old women desperately seeking nothing lol man stop living in fantasy! Start getting to know real people!!!!

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If you spend even 5% of the effort your spending online here ranting , raving and arguing with fonts on a screen that are trying over and over to help you ,Well you might just work up the nerve to even speak a word to a woman you might find to your liking, but you just won't for a gazillion reasons.

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And? What's wrong with that? Most young people just pursue casual dating relationships with whoever they find themselves attracted to and they only think about getting serious after they have been together and developed feelings for each other. Why is it wrong for me to do that? Am I supposed to be desperately seeking marriage just because most women my age are?

So because some men leave their wives for younger women, it is justified to hate on ALL men who date younger women? But of course, if I posted saying I only wanted to date older women, you would probably be encouraging me.

And what makes you think this is why men date younger women? Did you ever consider that maybe the guy just happens to like her regardless of her age?
It's not wrong for you to do casual dating. It just sounds to me like your looking for the physical release and nothing more. That's ok too but will you be telling the women you like that is all you're interested in?

BTW I don't "hate on ALL men who date younger women" I just disapprove when the women are 15 yrs + their junior. I think in those circumstances, it's obvious what is going on. And NO I have no desire to date a younger man.

That line of yours is really cute "maybe the guy just happens to like her regardless of her age". What exactly do you LIKE about the young girls? Let me guess, their body? What else could you possibly like without even knowing them. You just categorically say you like younger women. Well it doesn't take much to see why does it? It would be nice if you just let the girl know you're only interested in sacking her so as not to cause hurt feelings.
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Old Mar 08, 2015, 07:39 AM
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It's not wrong for you to do casual dating. It just sounds to me like your looking for the physical release and nothing more. That's ok too but will you be telling the women you like that is all you're interested in?


BTW I don't "hate on ALL men who date younger women" I just disapprove when the women are 15 yrs + their junior. I think in those circumstances, it's obvious what is going on. And NO I have no desire to date a younger man.


That line of yours is really cute "maybe the guy just happens to like her regardless of her age". What exactly do you LIKE about the young girls? Let me guess, their body? What else could you possibly like without even knowing them. You just categorically say you like younger women. Well it doesn't take much to see why does it? It would be nice if you just let the girl know you're only interested in sacking her so as not to cause hurt feelings.

The issue is (I am saying it with compassion) that op never dated due to social and emotional difficulties etc so he never asked anyone out. Instead of facing reality and finding ways to improve his own skills he blames society for something . Society has nothing to do with it

he sad he will make therapist appointment and get help. . I sure hope so. I deal with youngsters who have troubles with forming relationships and even approaching people. So it saddens me to read about this young man issues but at some point he just must do something about it!!!! Something beyond getting angry at people he doesn't even know!!!!!

I don't even think it is about younger girls. It is about trouble connecting to people and finding excuses

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Old Mar 08, 2015, 11:04 AM
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This thread is stilllll going?

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It's not wrong for you to do casual dating. It just sounds to me like your looking for the physical release and nothing more.
No, that is not what I am looking for. You are just assuming that based on your ignorant preconceived notion of why a man dates a younger woman. If I was just looking for that, I could go to a prostitute. It is about more than that.

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BTW I don't "hate on ALL men who date younger women" I just disapprove when the women are 15 yrs + their junior. I think in those circumstances, it's obvious what is going on.
No it's NOT obvious what's going on. The reason you disapprove is that you are PREJUDICED because your husband left you for a younger woman. You made that very clear in your first post.

And what about men dating women 15+ their senior? If anything, they are MORE likely to be using the women for sex than men dating younger women. But you are totally ok with that, because again, you are just prejudiced.

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That line of yours is really cute "maybe the guy just happens to like her regardless of her age". What exactly do you LIKE about the young girls? Let me guess, their body? What else could you possibly like without even knowing them. You just categorically say you like younger women. Well it doesn't take much to see why does it?
WOW, the ignorance in this comment is just over the top. I am going to have to post another reply for this one.
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Old Mar 08, 2015, 12:33 PM
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Do you just like throwing tantrums?

Forget dating 20 year olds because they're more you're mental age group, you're wayyyy too young too date.

You're behaving like a 2 year old atm, and I don't say that to be mean or condescending, it's an observation, made by someone's mother.
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This thread is stilllll going?

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You are cracking me up once again. Merry go round Can never seem to get it right talking to girlsCan never seem to get it right talking to girlsCan never seem to get it right talking to girls

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No, that is not what I am looking for. You are just assuming that based on your ignorant preconceived notion of why a man dates a younger woman. If I was just looking for that, I could go to a prostitute. It is about more than that.


No it's NOT obvious what's going on. The reason you disapprove is that you are PREJUDICED because your husband left you for a younger woman. You made that very clear in your first post.

And what about men dating women 15+ their senior? If anything, they are MORE likely to be using the women for sex than men dating younger women. But you are totally ok with that, because again, you are just prejudiced.


WOW, the ignorance in this comment is just over the top. I am going to have to post another reply for this one.

It is Sunday, why not line up a date? Or if no one to date it real life why not make online profile?

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What exactly do you LIKE about the young girls? Let me guess, their body? What else could you possibly like without even knowing them
News flash, heterosexual men ARE attracted to women's looks. That is the first thing we notice. That's how it is whether the woman is younger, older or the same age. But people like you only have a problem with it when the woman is younger.

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You just categorically say you like younger women. Well it doesn't take much to see why does it?
I like women of any age who are attractive, have nice personalities and are not desperately looking to settle down. Most single women who meet this criteria are going to be younger. That's just how it is. You are accusing me of exclusively being interested in younger women, but the reality is, you and others like you are wanting me to be exclusively interested in women my age and older.

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Ummm, the same things a guy typically likes about a girl? If a girl is attractive and has a nice personality, why would I not like her???


So the ONLY thing a guy could possibly like about a younger girl is her body? Really?


New flash, heterosexual men ARE attracted to women's looks. That is the first thing we notice. That's how it is whether the woman is younger, older or the same age. But you only have a problem with it when the woman is younger.


I like women of any age who are attractive, have nice personalities and are not desperately looking to settle down. Most single women who meet this criteria are going to be younger. That's just how it is. You are accusing me of exclusively being interested in younger women, but the reality is, you are the one saying I should be exclusively interested in women my age and older.

You are only 26. You make it sound as you are 45. You are young. At 26 most people neither men nor women aren't desperately seeking settling down. It just shows that you know very few people in real life and don't know what people really want. Most people (women or men) of any age aren't desperate. Let alone at your age

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I only know one settled down couple in your age group...


Annnd the circumstances that lead to that were extreme...


Everyone else is just going at their own pace, myself included. I'm 30, in an exclusive relationship, but no inclination to rush down the aisle, that's if I even decide to walk down it.


You really don't get out much, you weren't lying. That much about this thread is true.


You must be so glad to finally have someone on this thread agree with you regarding a measly 6 year age gap.


I just wanna know this, do you have any inclination to stop bickering about non existent issues and work on your actual issues?


Then again, I like how all my responses are overlooked


Some folks really don't appreciate reality checks, but that's their loss.


Last time I checked, my mom gave birth to a baby girl, not a parrot, so I will stop repeating myself now.
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I only know one settled down couple in your age group...


Annnd the circumstances that lead to that were extreme...


Everyone else is just going at their own pace, myself included. I'm 30, in an exclusive relationship, but no inclination to rush down the aisle, that's if I even decide to walk down it.


You really don't get out much, you weren't lying. That much about this thread is true.


You must be so glad to finally have someone on this thread agree with you regarding a measly 6 year age gap.


I just wanna know this, do you have any inclination to stop bickering about non existent issues and work on your actual issues?


Then again, I like how all my responses are overlooked


Some folks really don't appreciate reality checks, but that's their loss.


Last time I checked, my mom gave birth to a baby girl, not a parrot, so I will stop repeating myself now.

My posts are overlooked as well. Lol

I agree, most people nowadays aren't settling down until at least 30. People used to get married younger years ago. Not anymore

My daughter got married at 26 last year but at no point was she desperate. Lol they are just a great match and dated fir awhile and figured they would end up together anyways so they decided might as well be married.

Only one of her other girlfriends is getting married the rest aren't no where near. I have colleagues in their 30s single and don't appear desperate.

Sure some people are desperate but it is not a norm and certainly not in
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You must be so glad to finally have someone on this thread agree with you regarding a measly 6 year age gap.
I was wondering if I was the only person who noticed this. Shadix, the only person on this thread who's agreed with you has been the person that you've been slamming down on.

You disagree with those of us who are telling you it's ok. And you think that the person who agrees with you is well, you seem to think they're horrible.

I feel really sorry for you that you're so intent on basically hating everyone and being miserable with every possible situation. I hope that someday you will come to peace with yourself.
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