[Artchic528]

I met this guy on POF, and we really hit it off, echanged phone numbers, and then moved from texting every night to talking on the phone every night, sometimes twice a day.

We went on a date, and he gave me a long stemmed red rose, for Valentine's Day, and we both seemed to enjoy the evening a lot. He drove me home and we hugged and kissed goodnight. It was a wonderful night.

That was Sunday. He texted me last night, and said he had a great time, and we talked a bit about the weather.

However, he hasn't said a word to me since last night and it's been well over 24 hours. It might be the whole "not getting my hopes up so I don't fall down so hard" thing but I am not really expecting him to text me again. I have been let down a fair bit in the past, so I'm kind of just accepting this as another loss and moving on.

I know this isn't healthy, but I always assume the worst. In these kinds of situations and in other ways. It's like, why bother getting my hopes up? So I aways keep them low.

[~Christina]

24 hours ? Just chill. Maybe he doesn't want to scare you off by being way too eager. Or maybe all this nasty weather is keeping him busy, Don't assume the worse at this point, my goodness , Breath.

[Trippin2.0]

24 hours? I agree with Chris there, but it clearly bugs you, soooo....


What exactly stops you from texting him?


Is there some unwritten rule that X initiates convos with Y that I'm blissfully unaware of?

[A Red Panda]

Seeing as he text you first the last time, it would be totally appropriate for you to initiate the conversation this time. He may feel just as self-conscious as you do - perhaps he doesn't want to seem to eager. Perhaps he's worried that you didn't actually enjoy the night and thinks that you don't want to talk to as you haven't initiated.

Perhaps he's just being polite. It's common to not talk every day to someone that you've only just met.

Sometimes life is just really busy and you don't have time to dedicate to a conversation.

You'll never know until you text him.

[divine1966]

24 hours is not that bad, give it few days. If he wasn't interested he would not text you again saying he had a great time. Or you night casually text him yourself just politely asking how his day is going etc nothing wrong with that!
Good luck and tell us how it goes

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[Artchic528]

I can tell you how it goes. He and I won't ever speak again....because he's not interested at all in someone who can't drive.

[Trippin2.0]

So you're not even willing to text him, but you expected him to text you?

[Artchic528]

I was told to wait for him to text me.....is that wrong?

Damn curse...

[hannabee]

So I've had 2 different scenarios happen to me after two different encounters

1. The guy got into a motorcycle accident and was actually in the hospital!
2. The guy showed up 4 days later saying he wanted to see if I would really miss him.

I might text him and say hey how are you? Been thinking about you

I doubt he is not interested because you can't drive. If so, then he's looking for a chauffer, not a girlfriend and who needs that? Good luck and big hug!

[divine1966]

Don't assume anything yet! You have two options. Wait a bit longer or text him yourself.

Either option is ok.

Yes I also had situation when people had tragedy in a family or got very ill and couldn't call or they were afraid of rejection thinking maybe I didn't like them etc

I would text him myself. Those times when men had to always contact women first passed. It is ok either way

Hugs



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[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Artchic528

I can tell you how it goes. He and I won't ever speak again....because he's not interested at all in someone who can't drive.

Here again is your Black and White thinking is being allowed to run free.

Did he specifically say on your date where he brought you a rose " oh yeah , I refuse to date anyone that doesn't drive, can you pass the salt?" No of course he didn't .

As the others said .. You can send him a nice text " Hey I had a great time on day X . Hope you have a great day and be safe with all this nasty winter weather"

Try not to repeat your past behavior in dating, it hasn't done you much good. Try a new way...

[Artchic528]

I got around to texting him and we agreed to meet again if the weather was permitting this coming weekend.

[divine1966]

Good job!!!!!

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[shortandcute]

Don't get your panties bunched up in a knot! It was a date-not a marriage proposal.