[hvert]

I participate in a large, active volunteer group. We have an online message board. I posted an inquiry asking if anyone knew of an upcoming class or workshop in timber frame construction. I am not actually planning on building anything. I just want to take a class.

One person responded that they would be happy to show me what they had built and to answer any questions. Now several other people have jumped on the bandwagon. I've replied that I am not sure I want to pursue the project and just want to take a class to learn more about it, but it's not really having much effect. I'm getting private messages with phone numbers.

My BF didn't understand why I was annoyed with this situation. I don't want to call four different people to ask random questions about a topic I know nothing about. I don't want to read a bunch of webpages. I just wanted to take a class. Now I feel like I am in this awkward situation of having to turn down people who are just trying to help.

And the reason I like to take classes is because I like to meet people - so is it stupid to turn down this opportunity to meet people? Probably...

I think you can politely say that you just would like to take the class rather than ask about it. All you have to say is that you are unsure of the questions you want to ask and would feel better by taking the class to learn for yourself. You don't have to turn down the opportunity. But you also shouldnt have to answer to help you aren't wanting.

[hvert]

Thank you. I am not sure what it is, but sometimes little stuff like this really gets to me. I don't think it's normal to spend as much time thinking about this stuff as I do.

[Rose3]

or maybe you could just thank them, and keep it open if you wan to.

[hvert]

That would be too easy, lol.

I think I am actually going to make myself call them. I'm trying to be more outgoing/sociable.

[mamaroar]

I understand how social situations can get awkward like that.