Unrequited love again

First off, she is a friend. I've hung out with her for several years and I'm older than she is and probably should know better. As the story goes I was reluctant to start a relationship because she was younger and well I'm not the most aggressive person when it comes to romance. Now she is with someone else and it's killing me. I did not realize how much she meant to me until she actually told me she was dating someone. I don't know what I looked like when she told me but I'm sure it looked a little psycho. She doesn't attempt to see me much lately because when I'm around her I'm a babbling idiot. I think she knows she broke something - I wish she would say something but her new man has become her focus and she doesn't think about me much anymore - ouch! Most days I walk around in this weird otherworldly haze - is anything real anymore and do I care. The couch is something I hold onto for dear life - I'm afraid if I move I will disappear forever. I want to scream at strangers how I feel - I don't want to be a ghost to her. Don't get me wrong - I've been here before. I'm hoping I don't give up. Death feels so real - do I ever learn.

Its a hard situation but in reality all you can do is accept that she is with someone else and work on finding someone/something for yourself. As her friend, you should at least try to be happy for her, even if it hurts you.

Thanks -like I said I've been here before but it still feels like a grenade went off in your guts. The hardest part is trying to figure out whether or not she even cares how you feel. Not knowing is the pits.

She wrapped up in her new relationship , I'm sure once that settles down a bit you will see her more often , but as already advised , be happy for her, yeah it hurts and sucks big time.

I am certain that she cares about you , if you don't care for someone you don't hang out with them for several years.

I'm sorry you got your heart broke again. It is painful and will take time to feel less painful. Do not try to pursue continued friendship with her. That is only prolonging the agony. It's over. For whatever reason, things between the two of you did not work out.

Don't torture yourself wondering if she "cares" or doesn't. She probably does a bit. But her focus is now on someone else, and before too long you will just be a vague memory to her. That's not her being cruel. That's just how it goes.

Give yourself some time to heal up a little, and then go be open to a new relationship . . . maybe with someone not so young. Loneliness is one of the worst things in life and probably is the reason for a lot of suicides. But consider this: Somewhere there is some woman who, like you, is lonely. Actually, there are quite a lot of women in that predicament. Keep your eyes open for someone who has needs that you can fulfill.

If you find yourself falling for a woman who seems to not want more than friendship with you, then know that you need to move on from that. Those "friendships" mostly just bring pain.