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Mar 03, 2015, 02:13 AM
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Okay so she's with someone else and it hurts. The thing is we never slept together or watched movies on the couch or walked on the beach - we just talked. But it didn't matter to me - I was in love. To most people this would not be a relationship and it probably wasn't to her in the traditional sense. I really had no claim but it didn't matter - it was the best thing in my world and it ain't there anymore. Perhaps it was the way she actually listened to what I said - I was there, I mattered. Don't get me wrong, she was beautiful - I just wasn't the man I should have been I guess. She has needs and I wasn't there for her. My defenses are strong - in the wrong way. Now it's no sleep and a picture of her I keep drawing. I touch this picture often hoping she can feel me.
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Mar 03, 2015, 09:36 AM
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Hello Macd123,
Well, no it's not a weird idea of love, there are many people that get together via the internet and form a relationship, it is the way of the world these days. But... this relationship has now ended so you need to grieve just like you would if it had been an in-person relationship. Let grief take it's course and then you will be able to accept and move on. 
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Mar 03, 2015, 09:47 AM
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How old are you, how old is she if you don't mind my asking?
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Mar 03, 2015, 10:19 AM
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Well she's a millennium and I'm a baby boomer - so the gap is large. I guess the feeling of the last hurrah comes into play here - her youth has probaby got me a little hypnotized but damn she's hard to shake
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Mar 03, 2015, 10:32 AM
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I certainly don't know the whole story, but I can say that the love you felt wasn't weird. Talking with someone and feeling like you matter breeds a deep intimacy over time.
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Mar 03, 2015, 10:44 AM
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i'm sorry for your situation, maybe it just wasn't meant to be. you do grieve when we lose things especially people. do something good for yourself, something you like, don't give into discouragement, you can always find someone else, you will get over it.
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Mar 03, 2015, 11:34 AM
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I hope so and soon - I feel like a quadriplegic.
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Mar 03, 2015, 06:52 PM
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Well, reality can bite pretty hard sometimes. You are going to be ok, find someone closer to your age that is interested in doing IRL things with you that you have mentioned, there are other women out there looking for someone to spend time with.
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