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#1
Mar 05, 2015, 12:31 PM
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my best friend who i have sex with, yes i know, tells me he loves me everyday we kiss act like a relationship ect ect i love him more than ive loved anyone, but he wont be in a relationship with me, he talks to others girls, he got with my best friend who i no longer talk to, he chats with girls online, yet whenever i tell him to stop and ask if he says he loves me why does he do this, it gets turned round on me and its my fault??? and if i ever talk to anyone but him he threatens to ditch me and leave me with no one, which i dont want i love him but im so stuck i dont know what to do, sometimes i feel like hes using me for sex but i like the sex myself so i don't know? this has been going on for like 2 years
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#2
Mar 05, 2015, 10:06 PM
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Well it seems that your choice is to continue the arrangement you have, and deal with his being a player--or--move on and find people who place greater importance on your feelings than he does.
It troubles me that he got between you and your best friend. Best friends are important. |
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 6teen, toolman65
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#3
Mar 06, 2015, 09:40 AM
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If you're sixteen years old like your name implies, I suggest you talk to your parents about this person you are having sex with.
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| TimTheEnchanter
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#4
Mar 06, 2015, 09:59 AM
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Hi
I don't think this guy has your best interests at heart... I don't see a future here based on what you said. Sorry You deserve better!
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| 6teen, avlady
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| 6teen, Trippin2.0
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#5
Mar 06, 2015, 10:10 AM
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you do deserve better, you're young, i wouldn't waste any more time with this person, it's not healthy, you're being used and he is using fear to get you to not have other relationships.
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| 6teen, Trippin2.0
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#6
Mar 06, 2015, 11:36 AM
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Until YOU are willing to stop this, it will continue.
One day you will realize that having sex is nice, but it is no substitute for the feeling of being in a loving, supportive, trusting relationship. Who knows, maybe today is the day you discover that you have more value to a guy than just your junk. |
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| 6teen, Bill3, Trippin2.0
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#7
Mar 06, 2015, 11:50 AM
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thanks for all the advice guys, first time i've actually had any help from anyone with this...
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| Anonymous200104, Bill3, ToeJam, toolman65
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#8
Mar 08, 2015, 12:00 AM
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If he already treats you this way and you keep it up, he will do this to you for ever. I know you are young but this treatment is not healthy for you and can really mess you up in the head with future relationship. Hurry and stop this, he seems to be a player and your not. It is better to get hurt now and heal than to have years of damage done to do and have to get over that. Believe me it hurts. Good luck.
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Just taking one day at a time. If this doesn't work I will go to taking an hour at a time  I think if I can work on getting out of denial, my life would be easier. |
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#9
Mar 08, 2015, 08:07 AM
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You won't have room in your life for a real romantic relationship until you end this friends with benefits arrangement. Other people will assume you are taken. I would cut off the sex and start dating other people.
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| toolman65, Trippin2.0
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#10
Mar 08, 2015, 08:27 AM
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I think we phrase our questions and already know the answers. I'm with Bill--anyone that comes between two best friends is shady. Your lay sounds like a good guy to have for a sex supply but anything further? Nope, he's not it.
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#11
Mar 09, 2015, 02:07 AM
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He was just using you, you're the only one who feels the love in your relationship. Go find someone you deserve.
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The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for. - Bob Marley |
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#12
Mar 09, 2015, 07:28 PM
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My opinion? He is totally using you for sex. Drop him like a rotten potato. Don't let him harass you like that.
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#13
Mar 10, 2015, 08:19 PM
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Yeah, I agree with everyone else: he's using you. You sound like a nice person...kick this dude to the curb and use this as a learning experience not to ever allow a guy to treat you this way again. This isn't the way it's supposed to go. Good guys who respect you don't get with your best friend, nor do they dangle love in front of you like an emotional carrot only to yank it away whenever they choose.
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#14
Mar 11, 2015, 01:23 AM
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Wow, he is having his cake and eating it too! (Old saying)...sorry to tell you that he is so using you. Obviously he has no respect for you whatsoever! Please care more for yourself than to continue in this relationship.
Makes me want to slap him silly! Someone cannot use and abuse you this way unless you give them permission. 
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