why does it hurt?

ok, so my bf spent friday and saturday with me. it didn't go well, my roomies yelled and screamed a lot, his finger bothered him, he thinks my roomies are weird, and a couple of other reasons he told me that I honestly can't remember. he was super emo the whole time, and he was supposed to spend today with me, and ditched. He says he still wants to be together, but I feel really weird. He said that we'll either spend tomorrow or tuesday together, but after he promised me the weekend and bailed, I don't believe him. Should I? Am I being emo because I have opened my heart up to someone, which for me is no easy feat, and been let down, or am I right, that this guy wants to run away as fast as possible? I am hurting, and I could really use some answers if anybodies got them. Thanks.

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I do not have any answers. This kind of emotional roller coaster ride is decades in the past for me. I am glad it is over.

I think it is important to know that you don't have the answers. Your bf is not communicating to you very well. Clearly he has some feelings and/or thoughts that he is not telling you about.

You might want to back off just a bit. Not that you have done anything wrong. But just in case he is feeling claustrophobic. Then ask him after the weekend what is going on? He has all of the control and that is not a comfortable thing for you. You are in a totally wait on him mode. That isn't right. SO -- if for example he doesn't spend next weekend with you either, and he doesn't tell you wnat is going on, make your own plans for the weekend. Do not allow him to control your time. You are not just sitting around waiting for him to decide whether he wants to be with you. You will be living your own life.

I agree to Robyn that you talk to him. He may have things in mind that bothers him. You may try to help him with it. But don't let your boyfriend use that as an excuse to control you. He should help himself as well.

I agree with Robyn too. I think there is more going with him than you do not know about. Perhaps it is better that you don't know right now and so he is not telling you.

Perhaps he is feeling trapped and claustrophobic and needs space. If he is complaining about your friends and roommates, that is a sure sign that there are much deeper seeded issues. You need to give him space or you will lose him.

Hun, this will sound harsh, but have you considered the idea that maybe he has outgrown the relationship and needs to move on to experience something new? I mean you guys sound so young. Too young to be so involved. Especially for a male. Males at your age, have no intrest in 'settling down'. They need space and if they start feeling smothered and start fights, it's a sure sign this is what is happening.