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The daughter of my girl friend as let me into her life more and more , I just don't want to leave this relationship , I think it will be my last one , it's strange I have been writing on here , but I am sure she will change ,, some days are ok ,,, thank you for your advice , let's see how the next few days go

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Ok, I hope the best for you, and I think if she does the same again I would reconsider the relationship. Sometimes we dont leave the relationship and wait it out up to 7-9 times,7-9 rounds before we leave or have had enough. I did that with my xboyfriend.

I do hope things turn out better for you. Keep us updated.

Hello

It is 10 months since I have been with my girlfriend, not much has changed, she is still the same, but I am writting to say , I have noticed something about myself, I am becoming more tolerant, calm and thoughtfull a lot more than before.

I never used to cry in realtionships but I do with her, because sometimes it is very hard to be abused a lot . But then after I feel like I have lost a lot of tension .

Hello

It has been 1 year I have been in the realtionship, and my girlfriend , 10 days ago told me iy is finished, she argued with me and I stayed cool.

But yesterday she sent me a msg and I told her what I thought.

I feel relieved also very disappointed it did not work, since this was my 1st relationship in 8 years .

I just need to get back to my old life, where i was a happy go lucky character and travelled a lot enjoyed myself.

I wish to thank everyone that helped in the chat rooms and forums.

I will still stay in the forums and chat rooms because I have learned so much

Thank You!

You're in an a
toxic relationship and you'll have to not just ask yourself why but figure out how it is serving you and if that service is worth the drama.

Good for you for ending it and moving on but if she is still abusing her child you need to report her for the child's sake

Thank you rouge , I am missing her but this could be because I was used to her and mauve i miss the sex, her and feel like this is my last chance to have a realtionship, I don not know why I miss her and I hace these loniless feelings and feel like I hace lost a lot. I should be happy , but I am not

I was in that realtionship,she finished it and said she never loved me and detestes me but its finished and it hurts, I feel down and depressed . strange I should feel this way

Personally, if I were you and she tried to throw me or a child out even if for only 30 minutes, I would pack my bags, give her the finger, and leave forever taking the child with me while on my cell phone in my car smiling as I call 911 to report her for abuse and child neglect.

You deserve better man. Don't take this kind of abuse from anybody.

It has been over 1 month now, I am feeling good, my ex contacted me with a strange sms text saying 'monday' , I replied back what do you mean, she said " send it to the wrong person".

But that is it , Somedays I think about her but then I think of the strange times wth her.

I miss her daughter we was getting on well in the last few weeks.

I am happy go lucky at the moment but that is because I got a bonus at work and planing a holiday away to Japan for 1 week at christmas.

Been really busy with my son playing soccer , swimming and surfing , but I need to start some programmes without my son .

Once again thank you for everyone that helped and listened , It was a great experience .

Today, I had a 5 sec cry no idea why

We all cry at times. Hang in there.

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Sent her a msg today saying I will
Never contact. You until you do , and telling her I still have love for her , and I promised , so that's it

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I've read through this thread from start to finish. My thoughts: What she does to her daughter (throwing her out in the middle of the night, and probably plenty of other instances of emotional/mental abuse) sounds exactly like what my mother used to do to me from the time I was 7 years old until child services was finally involved when I was 15. It creates an incredibly invalidating and insecure environment for the child, and I absolutely believe that authorities need to be involved. No one is protecting this child or giving her a consistent sense of security, and I can tell you from personal experience that will have an effect on her which will take years to undo if she can ever undo it.

I know we can't really diagnose someone based on second hand information (that, and we're not therapists), but she does sound like she has borderline personality disorder which is what my mom's diagnosis was. In which case, without any shred of therapy, this will not change. The cycle will just continue with you being on the losing end, regardless of how hard you try to make it different. I'm sorry to be blunt, but I feel for you and for her daughter.

A previous poster was upset that we were advocating for you to abandon someone with a mental illness. Well, when that person has no desire or plan to change, what course of action is there besides being dragged into the vortex with that person? When I was with my ex-fiance, his close friends encouraged him to leave me and I was incredibly upset. Now, over 10 years later, I get it and I don't blame them. There was no winning solution. We'd been through trying to make things work. I wasn't interested in change at that time. Sometimes people have to cut their losses, and take care of themselves rather than martyr themselves.

Sorry if anyone said this already but is she bipolar? It sounds like drama I would cause in my self medicating/drinking days (minus the children being present, that's a no no)

Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
Seroquel 300mgs
Lamictal titrating at 75mgs
Buspar 45mgs
Ativan 1mg PRN
Vyvance 50mg PRN

Thank you for your comments , like i said , it is 2 months since it ended , I got 2 SMS since we finished from her and yesterday , I sent her a final SMS I really liked her daughter we were getting on finally . I know she was not stable but the romantic letters and words she said to me really touched me ,,
I thought she was the person for me , and I thought I could put up with the problems , but she put an end to the relationship

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I feel good today, thinking about the weekend, can not wait , but she is still in my head everyday , but I know the feeling will go away .

I just can not think about the terrible things with her only the good times ,expect when I read the old posts on here .

Looking for peace and tranquillite in my life now

A month has gone since mu last post

My Ex keeps contacting me about my things I left at her place in August and its every month, so 2 weeks ago I said throw them away or give them to someone she said "ok" .
All contacts was made my SMS .

Not a day goes by without me thinking about her and the little one, but thats me . I am a lot happy , I travel like I used to.

I can only say to people , It depends how mentaly strong you are and how much you loved the person, not mentaly obsessed (daily routines). to move on.

Always remember, life is great do not give up!

Hello

It has been since August 2015 , that she said to me it has finished.

My life is back on the tracks before I met her, Some days I think of her and hope she and her daughter are well.

I hope everyone that listened to me before are well and once again thank you

Thanks for the update. As cliché as it is, life does go on. Everytime a door shuts, another one opens.

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Hello

Me and my ex we split up in August last year It was a 1 year realtionship (read above for more about the realtionship).

I want to send her daughter a birthday card , I have not spoken to any of them since August, Do you think its a good idea ?

Thanks

If relationship was over last August and you don't have a relationship with her children ( I am friends with my ex's adult daughter that's why I mention sometimes people stay friends with ex's kids), sending her daughter cards or gifts is inappropriate especially if she is a minor

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Thank you for the reply , if you think it is not a good idea I will not send her one . I wanted to wish her a happy birthday .

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I wouldn't tolerate my exes sending birthday cards to my child when she was young. No way

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I did not see it that way , thank you for leting me see it from another side

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