[Duvdar]

Hey All

Been dating someone with Anxiety, Depression, And Schizoaffective. I love her very much but one thing that has been a battle for us is what to do each day when she is going through a down mood swing. Anytime this happens she has thoughts of guilt for not being able to give back what she feels she should be at this point in the relationship. She has thoughts or letting me go because she feels she is hurting me. What I am really looking for is any advice on how we might be able to deal with the down swings. Something I can do to help. Or maybe there is something she can do to help herself? Any advice would be great thanks in advance.

BTW- She is not on any meds at the moment. She said she does not want to make decisions on the relationship while on meds.

[CANDC]

Glad you are looking for insights here at Psych Central. Too bad your girlfriend is resisting meds. They could stabilize moods or reduce down swings.

If she is not open to meds, what about a therapist or couples counselor? Some people at PC will find a therapist will help them sort out the roots of their life.

Some people find the forums give them the compassion and empathy they seek. http://forums.psychcentral.com

There are articles that go into more detail about coping
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[Seeyalater]

Has she thought about group sessions? Going to group might make her feel at ease. She won't have to talk maybe she can sit back and listen. It can be intimidating at first but by listening it can help.
Good luck.