So angry I'm crying...

Hey all, so I've posted a few threads into my life and relationship, in a nut shell we ain't getting a mortgage now we will rent together instead.

Anyway this month at work she's done over 100 hours extra, great for money you would say? Yes but for us it's killed us this week more than any, to cut a long story short last night she was out round her friends and didn't get home till 1am then cause of her working I hardly hear from her in the day... She hates texting to be honest but I like it as we stay intouch that way. Anyway we sent 3 texts to each other all day and she's fine with this "it can't be helped"... Yeah right I don't believe that anyway, tonight after her shift she comes here knackered and wants to go straight to bed... I'll be honest I'm sexually frustrated we haven't had sex in a week and we don't have our own home yet so free houses are hard to come by which we have had this weekend and last... When I discussed it with her she went mad at me saying she nearly cancelled on me knowing I'd have a problem with her being tiered. I don't I just want sex and it's making me angry all this.

We argue a lot but love each other so much. She's my princess and I love her to bits, we are opposites but it works well. She's one of these women that is mega inderpendant as well, she doesn't like cuddles and stuff well not to much of it. I'm paranoid every time we argue she'll split up with me and she doesn't want sex with me or isn't bothered about seeing me... Why am I so insecure? I think its her and how she thinks she's right about everything and makes me feel so thick at times...

My heads all over the place, she doesn't know cause if she did she'd go mad, and we'd sort out but I'll go back to being the same...

Hi Danny, from what you are discribing it sounds like this person you love so much is somewhat on the selfish side. In a long term relationship, that can get very lonely.

It is no wonder your head is all over the place, you are not getting "your" needs met. Also, if you even think about having something long term, from what you discribe, I don't think she will make a good mother either. The needs of "others" are a bother to her. She may even have Narcissistic Personality Disorder, if that's the case "run".

Here is one link to look at:
http://www.pamelaspunch.com/are-you-...-a-narcissist/

being so frustrated you feel like crying, is a red flag to me.

Expecting to stay in touch all day is like a ball and chain. Marriage has nothing on the cell phone. This is why I refuse to give up my house phone because then others will expect me to keep track of my cell.

It sounds like she is young, working hard, and enjoying life. I think you should tell her you're sexually frustrated before y'all get a place together. I haven't read your other threads but I hope yall can talk it out because the added responsibilities are not going to help the relationship.

Your fiance sounds pretty independent to me. It sounds as though she wants to still spenda good amount of time with her friends. There isn't anything wrong with that, imo. But, it sounds like you two have different goals in mind.

You're wanting something solid, dependable, and loving.
She's wanting something fun, and still wants a little more space emotionally.

Imo, you two need to have a serious talk about where you are now and where you both want to be. Just come straight out and tell her how YOU feel. Say something like, "I am feeling angry right now and scared that you aren't as commited to this relationship as I am." Then, let her respond. Go from there, making sure to acknowledge whatever she says (by: "So you are feeling like ____?"). This style really does help me get through emotional discussions without them becoming intense or hurtful for either party. And that helps me feel a lot better!

Best wishes sent your way.