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#26
Apr 02, 2015, 05:34 PM
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Hmmm, interesting twist that he is picking himself up and doing something in the evenings ...
My theory is that he is looking for another victim to freeload on, and needs to clean up in order to make the proper impression. FAN-FLIPPIN'-TASTIC! I hope that is the case. Good Luck as the date gets closer. 
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#27
Apr 02, 2015, 06:12 PM
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NWgirl2013, yes...that is exactly what he's doing. The guy is really pathetic, a true loser who refuses to take any responsibility for himself in ANY way. Frankly, I am very surprised that he hasn't been involved in criminal activity in his life because he certainly has that mentality.
He's hanging around here all day today....my nerves are so on edge. I left for a while, but have things I need to do here. I just hope he leaves tonight...God please. |
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#28
Apr 02, 2015, 11:32 PM
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How did your house/apartment hunting go today?
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Apr 03, 2015, 10:39 AM
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Thanks so much for asking, ctstars. So far I've submitted an application to one property management company that manages a lot of properties. I rallied my daughter and my husband to really get out there with me (in the town I'm moving to) and "pound the pavement" so to speak. i.e., drive around and look for rental signs, in addition to any online rentals I've seen advertised, and make appointments to view any properties I see that I'm interested in. (We're doing that on Monday...had planned for today, but my BIL's dad died this week and his funeral is today.)
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#30
Apr 03, 2015, 11:25 AM
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Good luck in finding a place soon.
As for the other situation, once you have a moving date and have turned in your notice to the landlord could you call the non emergency police number and ask to talk to someone about a possible alteration. Calmly as possible, practice or write it out before hand do the police will take this situation seriously. Tell them that you atre moving out on such a date and you are concerned about the possibility of a violent confrontation by a roommate/squatter when you leave. That he has a history of trashing things, owns guns and will be facing homelessness when you move. Ask if there can be an officer there if he will be there the day you plan to leave to ensure your safety? I don't believe you need a restraining order to ask for protection, just the history of police coming to your place and police involment when he has acted up may be enough.
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#31
Apr 03, 2015, 06:32 PM
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Thank you sidestepper. Your suggestion is excellent. I think I would ask my husband to call the police since they generally bully women and take the man's side - even if he's quite in the wrong. I truly hope not to resort to bringing in the police, but if it has to be done, it will be done.
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#32
Apr 05, 2015, 04:13 PM
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Had a terrifying incident last night. The squatter somehow turned off my electricity just after dark. I was TERRIFIED. I was completely disconnected from ANY help, as my telephone is dependent upon electricity. I do not own a cell phone. All of a sudden, no electricity, complete darkness and I'm living in the middle of a scary ghetto. I locked all windows/doors and quickly walked up the street to where (thank God) my co-worker and friend lives. I used her phone to call the police and she so kindly insisted that I keep her cell phone overnight. She gave me candles.
The police took one and one-half hours to arrive. When they came (two young men) they were completely unhelpful. They were disinterested and both had their mouths full of chewing tobacco...several times when I was speaking they spit on the sidewalk. It was disgusting. They left me with no electricity, said they'd cruise around and see if they saw the squatter and would return to check with me. They never returned. Shame, shame on the police. I am spending the afternoon tomorrow searching for an apartment, but am so, so afraid the man will let my elderly, indoor cats out. I am terrorized and there is no help from the police department in this absurd state. |
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#33
Apr 05, 2015, 04:34 PM
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Can you take the cats to your friends house?
And how do you know it was your squatter who turned off the electricity?
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#34
Apr 05, 2015, 07:09 PM
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Hi A Red Panda, I know because I heard him behind the house (I know the usual sounds he makes). And it's just the kind of stupid, upsetting thing he'd do.
No, I can't take my cats to my friend's place. But I am looking for a new place all day tomorrow, so I am hoping and praying hard that something is available. I am ready to write the check...I just need the place. |
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#35
Apr 05, 2015, 08:50 PM
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Speak softly - move quickly - and carry a VERY BIG STICK.
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#36
Apr 05, 2015, 08:54 PM
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Quote:
call the HQ for your neighborhood and try to talk to someone about the issues and ask if there is someone among their squad who can be more sensitive and helpful. Unless they have a very good explanation why they let someone who doesn't pay the bill and who is unauthorized turn off your services - somebody's head should roll at the utility office - it could have had deadly results. |
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#37
Apr 05, 2015, 09:11 PM
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A Little Lost - thanks! I've never thought of calling (or going into) headquarters for my neighborhood. Because I live in a very run-down ghetto police protection here is HORRIBLE. interestingly, I work in one of the best neighborhoods in my city, very high-income/white/professional and the police in that neighborhood are exceptional. Clearly, police departments across this nation need some serious restructuring.
Yeah...things are truly messed up, when someone who does not pay a dime (and has never paid a dime) can have so much power to bully the resident of a rental. I do believe that it would be a matter of getting the "right" police officer...a guy (the women are usually horrible) who says Enough with this a**hole. But, while my squatter plays games with life and sits all day on Facebook complaining about me, I'm taking action. The GREAT news is - I no longer give a flying freak what happens to the jerk or how he feels when he sees me moving out. A week ago his feelings still concerned me. Not anymore. I am SO out of here - it's just a matter of finding the place...maybe tomorrow! |
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Apr 14, 2015, 01:07 PM
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My access to the internet is very limited right now, but I just want to check in on this thread and let all of you who have been so kind as to reply to me that I am OUT of the dangerous environment I was in. My cats, rat, and I are safely in a different town. I am searching all day, every day for a rental here. A VERY competitive rental market in northern California, but eventually something has to turn up. The squatter is STILL at the house I quite literally fled a week ago when he became even more threatening toward me. I've been back to the house once (a terrifying experience)...the house has been burglarized...I have lost most of my possessions, and most of those are things my parents left to me. This is all such an enormous mess...all because I tried to be kind to a man who turned out to be pure evil.
I am looking forward to when I have my computer back and leisure time to be online. Until then, all prayers and good thoughts are most welcomed. Thank you. Love all around~ |
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#39
Apr 14, 2015, 01:44 PM
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You are in our thoughts Poppy. Please remain safe. I understand the ordeal about housing in Northern CA. I'm sorry I wish I could help.
If you are in the Bay Area, I have heard of a program called InnVision Shelter Network which supposedly helps homeless families and individuals across the Silicon Valley and the San Francisco Peninsula return to permanent housing and self-sufficiency. Here is the link to their website: Services | InnVision Shelter Network List of locations: Locations | InnVision Shelter Network Phone Number: (650) 685-5880 Get Help resources: Get Help | InnVision Shelter Network I hope that you don't end up without a place to stay, BUT in case you do you might be able to try calling them. And if you aren't in this area, maybe they can tell you of other resources in your area that you can try. Wishing you the best of luck 
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#40
Apr 14, 2015, 01:47 PM
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I too wish I could help Poppy! I'm glad connect was able to provide helpful info. You are in my prayers and I hope you find something soon!
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#41
Apr 14, 2015, 04:59 PM
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Take care poppy I'm glad you're out of there.
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#42
Apr 14, 2015, 09:01 PM
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Thank you all so much...your friendship means more than I can even find words for right now, I am so exhausted. Love, love.
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#43
Apr 25, 2015, 04:14 PM
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I'm going to finish posting on this thread with an update. My cats, rat, and I are living in our own apartment! We've relocated to a small town. The apartment is tiny, but just right for me and my furry family. I'm already fixing it up and feel so happy here.
The house I was living in, the one I escaped from, has been completely looted and trashed. It's sickening. I've never owned much, and I've lost most of my stuff...almost everything my parents left to me and, worst of all, someone stole my fat leather case of poetry I've written (and some that was published) over the past decades. I did recover a box that was (amazingly) untouched by the squatter and other looters...a box of family photos and my children's baby books. All I can do is go forth and thank God I'm safe and in a home I love. |
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#44
Apr 25, 2015, 04:28 PM
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(((Poppy)))
Thank you for giving us an update. I'm glad to hear that you found a good spot to stay. Sorry about your poetry though  I know how that feels losing all of your hard work. I once lost all my files on my computer back when there were no easy ways to back up files. Any chance you can get printed copies of the ones you published?*hugs* hang in there. Hope you're finding your new neighborhood to be alright. Wishing you a good day~
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#45
Apr 25, 2015, 05:48 PM
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I'm so glad to hear you've found a place. Glad too that it's in a different city. I bet your furry roommates are glad to be out of there too.
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#46
Apr 25, 2015, 06:09 PM
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Oh that is wonderful news! Congrats and I hope things continue to look up for you!
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#47
Apr 26, 2015, 05:19 PM
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Thank you all so, so much for your support throughout these very rough weeks. Yeah, the worst part of it was losing my poetry (the poetry I had published was way back in the early '90's, so not likely I can recover it). But, onward and upward!
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