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Apr 23, 2007, 06:33 PM
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ihave been married for 19 years and always coped with my husbands lack of affection up until now. i went through a very bad time this weekend and he called me all the names under the sun, then apologised. all i needed was his care. he shows care in other ways, but i crave affection and love and to be told how he feels about me. i'm so loathe to be another divorce statistic, but i just dont think he'll ever change and i want to be happy and have a healthy sex life. his drive has never been as needy as mine. so much to cope with, leaving, house, car, personal things, i love him but he just doesn't get it.
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Apr 23, 2007, 08:01 PM
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(((jinnyann)))
What a hard situation.  I wish I knew some answers. I don't suppose you can do couples therapy? (Seems like men are always opposed to that though.) I want affection and love too, and I know I'd be unhappy without it. If there's no chance things will improve, maybe you would be better alone. Explore all options first though. Maybe you guys could talk it out with a counselor....Sorry I can't offer more help. That sounds so hard. Sidony |
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Apr 23, 2007, 09:31 PM
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i'm sorry, jinnyann. that's a tough one. i've been there......xoxoxo pat
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Apr 23, 2007, 10:17 PM
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Do everything within your power to make things work. If he'll cooperate with you, have him to to counseling with you. Maybe he doesn't know that calling people names is verbal abuse.
In the end, though, make sure that YOUR conscience is clear and that you did everything you knew how to do to make it work. Good luck!
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Apr 24, 2007, 05:05 PM
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(((((((((((((((jinnyann)))))))))))))))))))
I'm a big fat loser as far as relationships go, so all I can offer is a hug . . .
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Apr 25, 2007, 03:38 AM
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(((((((jinny))))))))
this has been a long struggle for you something keeps u write a list of all the things that make u smile when u think of him it wont fix the affection problem but it may just bring back a time in ur mind when he showed some affection (u have two kids!!! hint hint) |
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#7
Apr 25, 2007, 10:10 AM
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Jinny,
You know my take on the situation .. There is no reason to stick around in a dead relationship Tymber |
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Apr 25, 2007, 11:33 PM
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because like you tymber, i dont give up easily and maybe i'm clinging on to straws - i dont really want to be a divorce statistic, i'm trying the same as you remember
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