this is kind of a continuation from my last thread about my birth mom,
I'll have to add a link to it later because I'm currently on my iPad and it's hard for me to add long links.

Anyway, long story short, I told my mom I wanted to get in contact with my biological "mother" and she said sure, so she contacted my birth mom and said that before she talks to me, she'd like her to talk to her first so she can introduce us. My birth mom, however, wants nothing to do with my mom and she blatantly ignored my mom's requests and contacted me through Facebook. And she's said mean things about my mom to mutual friends of our family.

In her Facebook message she said, "When you're ready to talk here's my number" and I didn't respond because I don't want to get involved in her drama.

Anyway, yesterday I got a message from her daughter via Facebook, and she wrote me SIX TIMES in under a minute, saying things like, "What's wrong with you? Why don't you talk to my mom?! You're being so mean!" I wasn't even online to respond, yet she apparently kept messaging me.

I hate that my birth mom got her other daughter involved and I don't think I want anything to do with her or her family. I think I hate her, and I don't usually hate people often. I wish I never opened that can of worms... I would have been happier if she wasn't in my life anymore, if she never knew who I was.

[~Christina]

So block and delete her and her daughter. YOU control who contacts you on Facebook. In real life YOU still control if they had access to you in anyway.

Im sorry this is happening , but maybe its best you find out now you really don't like her as opposed to having an actual relationship and being hurt.

[Rose76]

I agree with Christina about your Facebook. You have lots of control of who can access you there and elsewhere in your life. Use it.

It was normal to want to discover who your birth mother was. You offered a perfectly appropriate way to have that happen, and she rejected letting your adoptive mom be involved . . . someone that she should feel grateful to. So don't let you and/or your mom get sucked into any more drama with this woman. Maybe some years down the line, she may have a change of heart. For now, she just wants to make trouble, so no need to give her that power.

[ChipperMonkey]

Ya, delete and block.

I think that sometimes people have romantic notions of their biological families, but the truth is that it quite often doesn't end up as desired. Your birth mom sounds like a drama factory. I can't blame you for not wanting to bring this three ring circus into your life!

Good luck!

[hvert]

What an awful experience. Who would have thought that it would turn out that way?! I do hope you can block these people and go back to your normal life.

[BeaFlower]

I'm sorry for this You could message her and tell her that you don't feel ready anymore to meet her. So you don't quarrel, and if in future you feel again the desire to contact her you can do it quite easily. But if she and her daughter go on in this way and it upsets you very much, maybe it's really better to block them.
Hope that you're ok

[avlady]

is her daughter your sister? i would block them too, no one needs more drama that will ruin your life and it's best to leave it as it is now-content in being knowing you tried. i know you feel rejected so i would not get yourself in any deeper.