[Rikux]

So my mother and older sister argue a lot, mostly because they don't trust each other. My sister does after school activities, but sometimes she comes home suspiciously late. My mom yells at her and plans to cancel her activities, but my sister doesn't want to quit because she's working on a play.
My mom is having a rough time because she's the only one supporting my sister and I and my sister keeps getting into fights with her boyfriend.
I want to help both of them, but I'm not sure what to do.

[kaliope]

hi rikux
it is great that you want to help your sister and mother but that is a big responsibility to have on your shoulders. it would help if you could talk them into going to counseling. learning some communication skills could be helpful for your mom and sis/sis and bf. you can look up reflective listening and i statements if you want to give them some tips. your mother may need to learn some parenting skills such as logical consequences and being consistent with follow thru if she wishes to manage your sisters behavior. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[Keyslost]

My mom and sis used to fight a lot. Then she went to college things settled down. You can certainly do fam counseling but if she moves out soon they may get better that way. Best thing that worked for me was to just wait it out talk to each of them when needed. Hope the best for you

[CANDC]

Welcome to Psych Central. It is difficult as kaliope says to be the referee, therapist and stay stable all at the same time. Take care of yourself so you do not get burned out.

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[Ruftin]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central Rikux!!! It's nice to meet you. You have joined a community of warm and caring members who will want to offer you support and advice. Yours is welcome as well.

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Sorry to hear your mom and sister don't get along. I'm sure it's very stressful for you to hear them fighting. Perhaps you could communicate to mom and sister how distressing this is for you, and that it's affecting more than just the two of them. I wish you the best and I'm so glad you're here.

I look forward to seeing you around!!!