[CosmicRose]

I was crying earlier today because I asked my ex why he broke up with me and he said it was because he thought I'm not living up to my full potential. I'm in my very early 20s and I live with my elderly dad who needs a lot of help with his numerous health issues. I'm not going to college at the moment because I need to take out a loan in order to pay for it and I'm struggling financially right now, I quit my job because it was based on commission and I'm in the process of looking for full time work. He also told me that he thought I wasn't Christian or religious enough. I cried today for an hour after he told me that's why he broke up with me, because I'm going through a difficult time right now and just to hear him say that to me (he's a lot more successful than me) made me feel like absolute dirt.

[Yismymindblank12]

What a prick! He beats you down after struggling. He says you're not up to your full potential. Good grief. Sounds to me you're much better off without him.

Like you're working hard taking care of your loved ones and going to school working hard at your self improvement. If he didn't accepted that he doesn't know what he's talking about. Sounds very superficial and harsh to treat you bad when you're down he lacks character in tough times.

Take this as a grain of salt, but that was very shallow. I got a bit riled up reading it because I know exactly that situation.

If he really loved you he'd stay regardless he likes you not what you can do for him.

Don't lose anymore energy or tears on him. Like if I sated someone who had beef with me broke up because I couldn't get a job atm, and trying to get a better job saving my money and taking care of my sick mother I'd be pissed for a bit, but know they aren't worth the trouble.

But in truth relationships do require beneficial qualities for one to stick, bit regardless it seems to me that he just bit off more he can chew.

Tbh idk hope anything makes sense

A partner ought to be there for who you are as a person.

We are not what we do for a living or how much money we make.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by CosmicRose

I was crying earlier today because I asked my ex why he broke up with me and he said it was because he thought I'm not living up to my full potential. I'm in my very early 20s and I live with my elderly dad who needs a lot of help with his numerous health issues. I'm not going to college at the moment because I need to take out a loan in order to pay for it and I'm struggling financially right now, I quit my job because it was based on commission and I'm in the process of looking for full time work. He also told me that he thought I wasn't Christian or religious enough. I cried today for an hour after he told me that's why he broke up with me, because I'm going through a difficult time right now and just to hear him say that to me (he's a lot more successful than me) made me feel like absolute dirt.

Don't let someone like that bring you down. Truth is that he's not worth your energy to cry about even though I understand why you would. Anyone that would take the time to assert that they think another person is not "living up to their potential" and is the basis for breaking things off, whether friendship or a romantic relationship, first needs to take a good hard look in the mirror and at society and realize that 99% of the world including them probably doesn't live up to their potential, it's a life long thing to work on! Second, if he truly views you in such a condescending manner as that, he is just an arrogant jerk that thinks way too highly of himself than he should. Move on, please.

As for the Christian enough... wtf. How is one Christian "enough"? I thought one was either Christian or NOT, not levels of Christian-ness. Religiousness itself also does not make one more of a believer than another and how you express your faith is your business and no one's to judge.

You are not dirt. You're a person, who sounds like you have struggles, but at 20 who doesn't struggle with life? I know very few 20 somethings that have it all together. I'm 47 and now just really hitting my stride. you sound like you're doing your best to do what you can and on top of that doing what others cannot - your father. Take heart, I'm sure you're in a good place with regards to what you're doing and challenges, struggles do not define whether a person has value or not, it's what they do with those things that does

[Trippin2.0]

I hope this comes out the right way...


He did you a favor by breaking up with you.


You dodged a serious bullet.
Good riddance to bad rubbish!!

YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!!!


And now you're free to pursue better!


Gee, what an arrogant, superficial, shallow asswipe.

[nicoleflynn]

Probably extremely insecure and feels better if he treats others with cruelty.....that will be a lifelong pattern.

[Bill3]

I live with my elderly dad who needs a lot of help with his numerous health issues.

You are a beautiful person.

[ChipperMonkey]

Wow, what a jerk.

Would you really want to be with someone who bases another's worth on such things as your career......given the fact that you're being INCREDIBLY selfless by taking care of your dad? You're doing something wonderful but he only cares about your job. He's pretty immature while you sound a bit more mature than he is. That is, you know the value of caring for those you love, he is only focused on himself.

You're better off without him.

[Rose76]

What an idiot. You can do better. I'ld say that taking care of your elderly dad is about as religious as it gets. What's his claim to fame as a "Christian." I thought we were all imperfect beings and that none of us lived up to our potential. He sees himself as different . . . a regular Pharisee, I'll bet.

I'm sorry for your pain, but I hope someday you can look back and see this as him doing you a favor. Find some genuinely spiritual people to connect with. This guy is not the real article.

[Bill3]

(((((CosmicRose)))))

[divine1966]

Taking care of elderly or sick IS living to one's potential. Tell him thank you for breaking up with me so now I can find a good person. Gee...you not religious enough? And he isn't good person enough, that much worse

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[toolman65]

So, you arrange your life to look after your parent and he claims that you aren't Christian enough?

Be thankful that this turd is out of your life.

I Corinthians 13/1 "if i speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or clanging cymbal."

[healingme4me]

Good luck to him in his quest for a superficial image...what he said wasn't very Christian like anyways...
Good riddance!!

[Northern_Spirit]

what ever happened to goodtimes and bad? In sickness and in health? Sounds like someone needs to go back to sunday school and learn some basic morals. Practice what thy preach. You sound like an amazing person and im sure you are doing everything you can to suceed.