[Millionaire007]

I've been dating a guy (coworker) off and on for about one year. It seems as though our conversations most of the time lead to him offering to tell me that he does no want a relationship. We could be talking about anything and he always goes back to the "relationship" conversation. It's gotten to the point where I tell him "I don't want to hear it- our conversation is not about relationships right now."

The reason this is becoming extremely irritating is we agree that we have chemistry and I've grown to care deeply for him. We get along very well as long as he's not steering the conversation to relationship talk. But, I notice he likes things that relationships offer like companionship, sex, insight, cuddling, advice, etc., yet he's adamant he doesn't want a relationship because there aren't any good girls anymore, except me of course, but...he still doesn't want a relationship.

How do I or should I, move on? Is there hope for this guy to commit? I've tried several times to move on, but because we work together I haven't been able to fully break away because I'm forced to see him 5 days per week.

I'd go for about two weeks without calling him. After about the first two days he'd reach out, but nothing after that. He'd then wait for me to contact him.

What's a girl to do?

Millionaire007, welcome to Psych Central, I see this is your first post!

Do you have an idea of what reason(s) may be holding him back from committing?

[IceCreamKid]

I'd move on. If he asked why, I'd be vague and say I thought my future was elsewhere. Why? Because I wouldn't want to get into it with him.

I base what I say on the experience I had with someone who did the same thing. Wanted all the good things of a relationship but also wanted to tell me constantly he didn't want a relationship with me.

He also had nothing good to say about women in general. I think you can do better.

[arundelle]

Definitely move on. The good thing is he's being honest and up front with you. The bad thing is you're wasting your life on someone who will never pan out for you.

Why are you not dating anyone else? Why not ask him if he has single friends? Who knows - his best buddy might share all his best qualities but is looking for a relationship.