[shortandcute]

I know that's a mean thing for me to say. But it's just that one minute, she's acknowledging my MI, then--especially when we're around family-she'll completely deny it. Like today, we had a little family get together, and my sister-in-law was talking about a certain issue she struggles with. I mentioned that I could relate because I often go through the same thing, and my sister looked me right in the eye, and said, "No you don't."

[Hexagram]

Yeah, uh, a pejorative like 'nut case' might rub some the wrong way in a psychiatric forum.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Perhaps she finds the thought of your MI unsettling and worrying and feels she has to deny it. She may well not be well versed in the intricacies of MI so speaks out of well-intended ignorance. Are you very close otherwise - she may be concerned about losing this connection to your MI?

How open is she to discussion? It would be good to find out how she feels?

[tearsinabottle]

I am sorry you have to hear things like this from your sister when you both go through the same do you think its her illness that makes her say such thing ( if she has an illness? )

I would not think that is an excuse because I think she must be aware that she acts differently when with family.

My sister, before we got much closer ( we didnt spend any time together like 15-20 years ago ), she acted differently against me when together with other friends ( not so good friends I would say ), but nice and acknowledging me when alone with her.

I think she had a strong need for attention before ( she has grown too ) and needed to be in the spot light. I do think she was aware of acting differently but I have never asked her or said this to her. That she did this before. She could smile and cheer with everyone around the table but chose to ignore cheering with me.

It makes one wonder if they are aware they do it but I think they must have. I really dont know. Its weird.

[shortandcute]

Originally Posted by Hexagram

Yeah, uh, a pejorative like 'nut case' might rub some the wrong way in a psychiatric forum.

you're right--I shouldn't have put that in there

[shortandcute]

Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow

Perhaps she finds the thought of your MI unsettling and worrying and feels she has to deny it. She may well not be well versed in the intricacies of MI so speaks out of well-intended ignorance. Are you very close otherwise - she may be concerned about losing this connection to your MI?

How open is she to discussion? It would be good to find out how she feels?

Well, she was my legal guardian for a couple of years and sometimes I think that she's worried that it might reflect on her.

[~Christina]

I don't know the whole story and you and your sister , but I do know she triggers the snot outta you very often based on your posting..

Why do you allow her to keep pushing your buttons? Do you have any kind of boundary set up when it comes to her?

Sometimes we have to take a giant step away from people and not allow them to run a muck through our lives.

I hope your feeling better soon.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Originally Posted by shortandcute

Well, she was my legal guardian for a couple of years and sometimes I think that she's worried that it might reflect on her.

'Reflect upon'? I wonder if guilt might be driving her. There may or may not be good reasons for guilt, but she is your family and she might need you sometimes too. I hope you two can find a way to exist independently but available to support each other.

[shortandcute]

Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow

'Reflect upon'? I wonder if guilt might be driving her. There may or may not be good reasons for guilt, but she is your family and she might need you sometimes too. I hope you two can find a way to exist independently but available to support each other.

I've always been the one supportive of her, but the situation is lopsided. She tries to convince me that she's supportive of me, but she really isn't. When ever I've needed her support, she has always acted like I was just over=reacting, or imagining things, or making things up, or that I didn't have it as bad as she did. There have been times when she has totally shut me out, and wouldn't have anything to do with while I was falling apart, because she didn't want to deal with it. But, as soon as she needed some support, she would call on me, and I better be there for her!

[kindachaotic]

Agree with Christina. Setting some boundaries seems in order.
Maybe step back & take care of You.
(((gentle hugs)))

[tearsinabottle]

Its clear that she has issues. Its not fair you be treated like that. I know it must hurt.

I hope setting some boundaries would help.