[LelouchLamperouge]

First off, some brief background on me...I'm a 25 year old male that has been suffering from severe life long depression, anxiety/social anxiety and am extremely introverted. I have yet to even have any kind of relationship with a girl. Anyways, for the past two months or so, I have been talking to someone that I met through PC. She is someone that I have become comfortable talking to and I enjoy talking to her. I have noticed that I have started becoming attached to her. We are in completely different time zones and I know she is often busy but I sometimes get anxious, nervous, or paranoid when she doesn't respond. I also feel like I am often a bother/annoyance/burden and sometimes think it might be better if I just stop bothering and messaging her especially with me feeling like a completely "broken thing" and with the thought of who would want to actually talk to me. I can be realistic and know that nothing will ever come of this between her and me especially with her living in a completely different country but yet here I still feel like this. She is literally really the only person I speak to besides my T. She tells me that she has a new boyfriend and I don't know how to feel. Of course I tell her I hope he treats her well and I want her to be happy. I do want that for her myself but my attachment is causing me to feel a bit of despair and resentment. God I hate this. What should I do?

[LelouchLamperouge]

This is so frustrating...

[Big Mama]

You are right to feel the way you do. That is completely normal and how it feels to be attached. I know it sucks. It is a difficult position to be in.

Generally that is how it feels when you have a connection to someone. I have issues with connections because I don't like that feeling either. Mine stems from past abuse and making it hard for me to connect.

It is nice of you to wish your friend well, and it is normal to feel slightly hurt that she now has someone else. My only advice to you is continue to be her friend. If this doesn't work out with the new person maybe she will lean on you and you can develop a relationship with her. Worst case senerio you have stepped out of your comfort zone and made a new friend and that is a step in the right direction.

[Dan208]

I know exactly how you feel. My best friend moved a few weeks ago and I've been lost without her. She said that I can text her any time, but I often feel like a bother, especially when it takes her a while to respond (for the record, I always feel like a burden to others which is why I usually never ask for help with anything). I'm getting better and haven't talked directly with her for a couple of days (still "liked" some things of hers on Facebook) and it's killing me.