I am being cheated...

My wife...she was inclined emotionally towards a male colleague in the office, I came to know this ..by seeing her emails n messages. She had the habit to always talk to him on phone or through skype and whatsapp for hrs. I confronted her she said that he is her friend not any thing else and remain forever, moreover she is blaming me to be in chat with my female friend, its true that I have a chat friend whom I never met face to face but I dont talk her frequently ..its only once or twice a month for 2 or 5 minutes. she is in my face book friend list as my wife thats all. Migraine headaches started then doctors told it might be temporal arthritis, we havent got it tested though. now she says she doesn’t feel love, for any one even for our 12 year old son.
she doesnt talk much with me but with her friends she seems normal, she remain irritated with me and my son most of the time. Its going to be more than six month she is not interested in sex at all, cant even let be hug or kiss her ..and acting cold all the time. what to do...dont want to leave her..she too dont want to move with him..

Hello. I am sorry to hear that so many problems are happening with your family. Since I have autoimmune illness in addition to mental health problems, I tend to look at trying to fix the medical problems first.

I am assuming that you mean that your wife may have temporal arteritis. This is an autoimmune illness and really should be treated, if she does indeed have it.

Autoimmune illnesses can affect moods enormously. I would suggest that you concentrate first on supporting your wife in getting treatment for her medical illness. Once she gets that firmly diagnosed and is being treated for it, psych medication and/or counseling may be needed.

I wish you well and hope you'll continue to post here. This forum is a good outlet for feelings that we often can't share with people we know in our day-to-day lives.