[Sergen]

Hey Guys. I live in Norway and i just like to have your advice on this:
Well, the story is a long one, and ill tell it as good as possible.
It started in February, i fell instantly in love with a girl in my class. She was perfect, simply perfect.
I broke up with my girlfriend (been together for a year) and started seeing this other girl.
She had been together with this boy for 3-4 years and had broken up a couple of months earlier.
We started hanging out together and it soon turned out to be pretty heavy. We had sex early on and it was simply the best
Well, we had a extremely good chemistry and things were really going well along.
Well, i`ll pace this up a little.
She still loves the geek she broke up with and often sees him and she has said for a long time that she wants to build up trust with him and maybe become a pair again.
He is as she says not a good talker and has a lot of aggresion, he is not excactly the best boyfriend.
And she tells me that im everything she is looking for in a boy.
But her feelings is the only thing which says that she should go back to the old boyfriend. She loves him, she loves me not.
And now she has nearly dumped me.
Well, the problem is that i love her. And i want her.
But i need to cool down. I send her lots of stupid text-messages and i tend to get a little too hot.
The times she comes to me is when i give her a little time to cool down and clear her mind.
But im going mad and i often have depressive thoughts, u c, almost everything reminds me of her. So i cant stop thinking about her.
But i need to think about other things! This is only causing trouble with my friends, school, soccer and my own head!
What should i do?!?!?! Help me!

[rmm5497]

Sergen...how old are you? I only ask because you mention meeting in class and being the "boy" that she wants. Are you in high scool? College? I'm only 23 so I'm not trying to minimze your feelings "your so young, blah, blah" It's would just just helpful to know to gage a little better where you are in your life.

[Sergen]

Im 18 years old. Prime of life

[rmm5497]

Prime of life...absolutely. Enjoy being in love, revel in it...but don't lose yourself to it and remember that loving someone is about how you feel for them but being in love is about how you both feel for each other and the sharing...emotional, physical, spiritual, intellectual that you enjoy together. Being in love is about growing together, it's about true partnership and even if you don't believe it now (it's like a law of being 18!) you may grow and she may grow individually and find that the relationship is not taking you in the direction your inclined to go. If the "connection" is fading don't force it...you'll resent each other and regret it later. Sometime the sex can be really hot but if there nothing to after it then you may as well be having a one night stand. Great sex can't keep a relationship going...but it can be, yes, Great sex!! He he...that said I married my high school sweetheart and we're really struggling now to recapture what brought us together and I lot of times I wish I wasn't so hasty to settle down...so I'm a little biased in this topic. When my husband went away to college out of state and we broke up for awhile I had this on my wall.........

"If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's your...if it doesn't it was never yours to begin with. -Unknown

[kitty]

Sergen: I know this is harsh, but if she is still stuck on the other guy, even though you are obviously better for her than him, you need to let her go for your sake. In the end, she will probably cause you misery (which she already is). Unrequited love causes more pain than it is worth. You are young and there are so many other girls out there. I know she seems to be "the one" for you, but by staying with her, you could end up missing the one who is really for you. When you find that "one" you will really know and she will love you back with as much intensity as you love her.

[Zenobia]

I remember this feeling. I loved him so much. He was my everything. But he had a way of wandering away from me. I pined over him for 3 years. I cried, I was miserable, all I wanted was him. Then he was gone. He moved away I don't know where too. Then I had to move on. A year later I met the man who became my husband. We just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary. It has been rough at times but he was been committed to our relationship even when it sucked as I have been committed to him. I don't think the jerkwad that I pined over would have been as good for me. He couldn't even stick with me more the 6 months at a time, he was always thinking of the other girls out there but was enjoying the great, always available sex we had together. I know it hurts but try to move on. There are other beginnings.
Zen
*she takes a breath and thinks that story hurts as much to tell now as it did a decade ago. man that sucks. Wish I was the one who just up and left then it would have been a triumph instead of a defeat. Bah who cares.*<font color=blue>

Progress is nothing but the victory of laughter over dogma.--Benjamin De Casseres