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Jun 22, 2015, 02:04 AM
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My boyfriend of about six months has a problem with communicating...in that he doesn't. At all, usually. It started out with him just being shy. Now he's not so much shy as just given up completely on talking or supporting a proper relationship. Even if I beg him to stay and talk to me (usually due to my depression and risk of self-harm, he either goes to sleep or doesn't respond. I currently have to force conversation with him. He wouldn't talk at all otherwise. It just...hurts. Is there any way to fix this even a little?
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Jun 22, 2015, 04:52 AM
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If you two don't talk then what do two of you do? Activities? I met men who wouldn't talk much of deeper issues. I stay away from them
I don't understand comment on depression and self harm, you want to talk to him about of hd has to stay with you of goes to sleep because of that? I am confused on that part. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Jun 22, 2015, 09:14 AM
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I'm sorry, I'm pretty bad at explaining things. Pretty much all we do is text now, if that. Even though we live about ten minutes away from each other, it's been a long time since he's wanted to spend time with me. We talk a lot at night just because we're less busy then. I tell him how I'm feeling (usually not great) and he usually stops talking soon after. He only answers my messages half of the time later, after I've worked through whatever situation I was in alone. He tells me he fell asleep. It feels like he's lost hope in our relationship. Sorry if I've just confused you more.
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Jun 22, 2015, 12:29 PM
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Ok so your not seeing each other in person at this point, Hes not even responding in a loving caring way.. Why would you even want to stay with him? He's obviously not being supportive.
Kick him to the curb. You deserve much better. Please find some professional help with finding out the root cause of your self harm and depression. Welcome to PC 
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Jun 22, 2015, 12:40 PM
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Maybe he can't or doesn't want to or doesn't know how to deal with your self harm and depression talks.... Maybe those topics are too "heavy" for him, as in its too deep or he feels overwhelmed, burdened even.
Not everyone is cut out for these things, I'd suggest asking him if these topics are off putting or just to explain exactly what his problem is. After that, I suspect I would be considering myself single.
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Jun 22, 2015, 12:58 PM
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He's always saying he can't do things when he doesn't want to. I've been trying to break him of it for a while now. I honestly don't think he's ever read The Little Engine That Could. He gives up almost immediately. Or... doesn't bother trying.
My mom actually found out that I was depressed a while ago and said that she would take me to a doctor or therapist to help, but absolutely nothing has happened in the past several weeks since then. Self-harm is recent. It's the only way I can express my emotions without talking to someone or destroying things when it's that bad. When it isn't that terrible I usually write free verse. It's pretty emo. And thanks for the welcome. I think this web site might help a lot. |
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Jun 22, 2015, 08:21 PM
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Maybe now would be a good time to follow up with your mom about seeing a doctor and/or therapist.
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Jun 22, 2015, 08:26 PM
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Sorry but if you two don't see each other and only text then i am not sure he could be considered your boyfriend. I would start moving on but in a meanwhile please seek help. Do you need your mom to take you to a professional or you can do it yourself?
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#9
Jun 22, 2015, 09:09 PM
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It's just hard. I care about him, and he cares about me. At least enough to strike through his self-depreciation enough to talk to me every once in a while.
I don't even have my learners permit yet, though I've been applicable for a while now. Plus I live nowhere near any place capable of helping me. So I do need her to take me. |
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#10
Jun 22, 2015, 10:59 PM
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I am not saying you don't care for him or he doesn't care for you but talking to you every once in awhile doesn't make a relationship. How old are you? I now think you must be very young!
Yes please ask her to take you . Self harm is dangerous . You deserve to have Good mental health Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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