[rukspc]

I've been feeling a lot better recently and haven't had very many depressive episodes.

Recently, I met someone online where one can join groups to meet other people. I joined for the sole purpose of getting through my anxiety and depression to do fun events and socialize. Some guy messaged me and we quickly turned to texting. I thought he was cute and gave it a chance.

For the past two weeks, my gut had been telling me that something was up because he started making excuses why he couldn't meet up and was very aloof. Finally we decided we would meet for coffee on Sunday. On Saturday I confirmed our meeting and he agreed. However that same night, he sent me this drunk text with words misspelled. My gut instinct said something bad was going to happen on Sunday and I was right.

I showed up for coffee in the morning and waited for about 15 minutes, then another 5. I texted him that I was already there but never heard anything back about any reason why he couldn't come. I was livid when I realized that it was a total joke and I left, deleted his number and went home to enjoy the rest of the day.

Needless to say I knew it was too good to be true that someone who barely texts or communicates makes plans but doesn't follow through. That was two weeks short-lived and something I never thought would happen to me.

Did I do the right thing by not saying anything? That was such a mean thing to do, but I know it happens all the time. I guess now I have a story to tell, but I'm over it. He's not worth my time.

[Ganganthefatman]

You said he was drunk the night before. Do you think maybe he had a hangover and accidentally forgot?

[rukspc]

I haven't heard from him all day. Even if he did forget, shouldn't he have said something when he finally remembered?

[Ganganthefatman]

Originally Posted by rukspc

I haven't heard from him all day. Even if he did forget, shouldn't he have said something when he finally remembered?

What kind of group did you guys meet in? Did it have anything to do with anxiety?

[rukspc]

No it's a social event site where you join groups based on your interests. Then you meet for happy hour and go to fun events around the city as a group, or play sports or go to the movies. Nothing related to anxiety.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by rukspc

No it was a social event like happy hour and go to fun events around the city. Nothing related to anxiety.

People who stands others up aren't worth your time. Good decision to move on

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[Ganganthefatman]

I agree, it's good that you moved on. Although you never know, he could be dealing with anxiety. Some people are just really good at hiding it.

[CosmicRose]

I deal with anxiety constantly and even I have the common decency to let others know I won't be able to make it beforehand if my anxiety is really bad. Don't contact him, he sounds like a jerk. I was stood up days ago too and its best to find someone else who would never stand you up.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by CosmicRose

I deal with anxiety constantly and even I have the common decency to let others know I won't be able to make it beforehand if my anxiety is really bad. Don't contact him, he sounds like a jerk. I was stood up days ago too and its best to find someone else who would never stand you up.

So true. I've been anxious before the date or a meeting myself but it never occurred to me just not show up. Even a person couldn't do if before hand it would be polite thing to at least Apologize later.



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[Ganganthefatman]

Ok, excluding the guy, the severity of one's anxiety differs greatly on the individual. Some people with anxiety can't even talk on the phone, while some others can. It varies from person to person.

[rukspc]

I doubt he felt anxious. He’s a good looking guy who probably has tons of dates all the time. He had no intention to meet me and I got played. Sigh* Thanks though everyone.

[OtioseM3]

Id love to know what site you went to to meet people like us. I am sorry you had to go through that <3
You did the right thing.

[where.ever.you.are.]

Originally Posted by rukspc

I've been feeling a lot better recently and haven't had very many depressive episodes.

Recently, I met someone online where one can join groups to meet other people. I joined for the sole purpose of getting through my anxiety and depression to do fun events and socialize. Some guy messaged me and we quickly turned to texting. I thought he was cute and gave it a chance.

For the past two weeks, my gut had been telling me that something was up because he started making excuses why he couldn't meet up and was very aloof. Finally we decided we would meet for coffee on Sunday. On Saturday I confirmed our meeting and he agreed. However that same night, he sent me this drunk text with words misspelled. My gut instinct said something bad was going to happen on Sunday and I was right.

I showed up for coffee in the morning and waited for about 15 minutes, then another 5. I texted him that I was already there but never heard anything back about any reason why he couldn't come. I was livid when I realized that it was a total joke and I left, deleted his number and went home to enjoy the rest of the day.

Needless to say I knew it was too good to be true that someone who barely texts or communicates makes plans but doesn't follow through. That was two weeks short-lived and something I never thought would happen to me.

Did I do the right thing by not saying anything? That was such a mean thing to do, but I know it happens all the time. I guess now I have a story to tell, but I'm over it. He's not worth my time.

Same thing happened to me except I had already met her in person and developed a connection. But she was very shady over text and never followed through with calling. She said she wanted to meet up one weekend. So I drove 12 HOURS to see her (I live far away from her), spent about 500 bucks, and was so excited to finally be close to her again.

That morning, when I showed up at the hotel, I text her and gave the address. She never text me back and never showed up. I was completely devastated and disappointed. It really screwed me up.

I only said something to her once and that was a few months later. All I said was that she really hurt me by standing me up. She never even apologized. Oh well. Happens to everyone but it's good to vent.

[growlycat]

If someone is going to act so strangely right off the bat, that person isn't worth your time.

Jeez, if he drunk dials before date # 1, what would the rest of the relationship look like? Likely a hot mess.

[rukspc]

Originally Posted by OtioseM3

Id love to know what site you went to to meet people like us. I am sorry you had to go through that <3
You did the right thing.

www.meetup.com

I joined originally to get over my ex-boyfriend and do fun things + socialize more. I'm an anxious person so this was a lot for me. But in the time I've been a member, I've done a lot of cool activities that I would not have done if I didn't have this resource. I encourage you to join.

[rukspc]

I recently watched an interview about dating after break-ups and divorce. The woman said something I didn't think of before (paraphrasing): 'if you're going through a break-up or divorce, you may resort to dating online but sometimes we have to realize that it's not always true'. There are liars and cheaters out there and we should not be so quick to believe that person won't do those things to hurt us.

Something interesting I thought I'd share.

[rukspc]

Originally Posted by where.ever.you.are.

Same thing happened to me except I had already met her in person and developed a connection. But she was very shady over text and never followed through with calling. She said she wanted to meet up one weekend. So I drove 12 HOURS to see her (I live far away from her), spent about 500 bucks, and was so excited to finally be close to her again.

That morning, when I showed up at the hotel, I text her and gave the address. She never text me back and never showed up. I was completely devastated and disappointed. It really screwed me up.

I only said something to her once and that was a few months later. All I said was that she really hurt me by standing me up. She never even apologized. Oh well. Happens to everyone but it's good to vent.

where.ever.you.are, I'm sorry that happened to you despite driving so far to meet her. I hope you find someone who treats you with respect and won't act shady. Sometimes people just don't care about their actions but you can do right by removing yourself from the situation. *hugs

[SilentStorm24]

Sorry that sucks Are you sure he really was that "good looking guy" in the pictures? Maybe he was catfishing you?