Question to the men in particular, but open to everyone

Mother's Day has me thinking about Father's Day. I have a friend who had a daughter 8 years ago, and the mother took off with her. My friend has hired PI's to no avail, and cannot find her.

When it comes time for Father's Day, would a card be too much? Should I ignore Father's Day? I'm just not sure what this must feel like for him....so I thought I'd throw it out here for advice.

Thanks in advance,
Rayna

I would acknowledge that he IS a father, but would think twice about giving him a card that said "Happy" on it. Maybe a card to give him some hope. Make it uplifting without the traditional "happy father's day"?

I think the hope angle is good idea...

Yes, that is what I was thinking. I'd never get him a happy card. So I should get him something to let him know I remember, but not necessarily acknowledging Father's Day?

just a card to a friend on father's day......... if they do one, if not why not make one.
i would think fathers day would be a hard time for your friend, so to know you are there if he needs a friend.

I would remember him, but not with anything as tangible as a card. A phone call, an invitation to do something he'd like to take his mind off the day. The idea of marking the occasion with any kind of card made me feel queasy.

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I would remember him, but not with anything as tangible as a card. A phone call, an invitation to do something he'd like to take his mind off the day.

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Yeah this is what I think too. Maybe ask him to get together that day, but don't mark the occasion any other way.

Sidony

Hmmm, good thinking. Yeah, maybe a card would be too much.