[Tigerlilly]

I haven't had a relationship in years and a date in a couple of months. I kind of want to start dating, but I have a lot of issues with depression and anxiety, not to mention my sex drive is next to nothing.
Well, that said, I *casually* dated this guy some time back, and its VERY clear he doesn't want a relationship or anything, and I wouldn't really want one with him either (don't find him particularly physically attractive and the sex sucked), but he called me out of the blue (yeah, like most of these wankers do)
Anyway, my question is, since I've been experiencing a lot of anxiety to the point where I've become reclusive, and I want to change that, should I call this guy back? He's harmless. It's a chance to get "out and about", and I'm having less and less of those because I'm becoming a freakin' hermit.
On the other hand, I have no interest in having sex with him and he'll only disappear for months again, only to resurface for whatever reason, but I don't really care about that.
I'm just wondering, should I basically take this baby step to be social/dating again, or should I work on bigger and better things (which I'm not 100% are going to come any time soon)?

[Hopefull]

That is up to you. Will going out with him help your anxieties or will you have a negative experience and reinforce your anxieties? Do you have a job or club that you attend? Do you have family or friends to spend time with? What about a support group?
Since I am a scientist at heart, I would write up a pros and cons list.
If I go out with him If I don't go out with him.
sdjkiduioj oasidfjioadfjio

This is how I make descisions when my mind is all spegettied up. It helps me to untangle the noodles of thought from each other. I'd also suggest that you try to think up some simple social activity whether it be talking to someone on the bus, talking to people on-line, sitting out on your porch where people can see you or whatever and try to do it daily.
As for sex drive, I don't know what that is. Could you define that for me? (Hehe. I don't have one nor have I ever had a sex drive.) Good luck.

[Perna]

I would work on bigger and better things, go to a meeting/pick up an "outside" hobby of some sort on your own rather than bother with someone you think is a "dead end"?

Can you think of any activities that are low-key and might have a single man or two? Volunteer activities, plant-plants-along-the-rive for the environment, that sort of thing? Church group outing or volunteering to help with groups of younger people, etc.?

[Tigerlilly]

Thanks, guys. Yeah, I'm going to try to force myself to go to an anxiety support group tonight. And then, this weekend, I'm going to try to force myself to go to an event where I don't know anyone. I have to deal with these anxiety issues and get out and about. I think it's probably not a good idea to date now, although I would eventually like to be in a relationship. One thing at a time, I guess. What both of you say makes a lot of sense. And I really appreciate your insights! Thanks again.

[Direction]

Getting out sounds nice - getting out with someone who you know isn't a good fit may not be the best idea.