[frannyapple]

Thought i was gunna have another boring saturday but my house mate tom was off to a 4 person do and i was about to get super jealous until he said i could tag along. As soon as we walked in this beautiful pre-op MtF girl caught my eye. So the vodka and weeds flowing and pretty soon im telling her how stunning she is. Next thing we are snogging in the hall and every time one of us went for a pee the other turned up outside the door for a sneaky kiss. Shes text me today like "was so lovley to meet you last night" Only thing is shes new to kissing girls.. only ever been with guys before but it seems to be going well. Im just freaking out cuz i really really like her but fears of abandonment already wrecking my good mood. Ffs bpd. Any advice? Someone chill me out.

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[healingme4me]

My apologies for not seeing this thread until now. I also notice that you are a new member. Sometimes once a thread is released from moderation, it is spotted by the date that it was written and get become overlooked by other active threads.

I guess to answer, sometimes all any of us can do in a new relationship is go with the flow. Each person has some form of rejection/abandonment trigger, it's human. For someone with bpd, as you mentioned yourself as having, try to be mindful of overthinking fears, not let your imagination get the better of you, so to speak, that's fear based. If she texted you, safe to say at an even level.

How have things progressed since?

[divine1966]

The only concern I would have is that you entering new relationship under influence of vodka and weeds. That really could mess it up from the beginning. Other than that good luck

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