[Merr234]

Hello,

So I will get straight to the point... My wife and I have been married for over a year now. And over the past few months.... My Bipolar disorder has been acting up rather severely. I have said some things during my "episodes" that I have not realized was said til after the damage was done. We are currently in marriage counseling to address these issues and how to cope with them as well. I am also on medications to help out as well. Issue is, tonight I confronted her on what I thought was going on, and lead to conversation of divorce (second time mentioned) My question is, i don't want to lose the love of my life to my disorder. Any help would be appreciated,

A concerned husband.

[CANDC]

Welcome to Psych Central Merr. Sorry you are suffering from bipolar challenges in your marriage. It can take years to work things out when it is difficult to get both parties to the counselor with a willingness to change. It is a difficult time, but one where meds and counseling can help.

Glad you are joining us here. There are lots of compassionate people here that can make the load lighter by sharing and caring. Feel free to participate actively at Psych Central.
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[iwonderaboutstuff]

Originally Posted by Merr234

Hello,

So I will get straight to the point... My wife and I have been married for over a year now. And over the past few months.... My Bipolar disorder has been acting up rather severely. I have said some things during my "episodes" that I have not realized was said til after the damage was done. We are currently in marriage counseling to address these issues and how to cope with them as well. I am also on medications to help out as well. Issue is, tonight I confronted her on what I thought was going on, and lead to conversation of divorce (second time mentioned) My question is, i don't want to lose the love of my life to my disorder. Any help would be appreciated,

A concerned husband.

Marriage counseling sounds good, and it's great she's on board with that.

Always challenge your assumptions.

Consider saving some discussions for when you're with the counselor. They can guide it. Maybe consider individual too.

[~Christina]

Bipolar can make it difficult. I was diagnosed Bipolar after I was married. It fits. I accepted it quickly and set to work on how to find stability and lessen my swings.

I think marriage counseling will help and your seeing a Therapist (T) on your own will certainly help you find balance and learn coping skills that will help you, stay more in control, Breathing exercises, Medication, Mindfulness, Meditation

I have said some really ugly things when I have been out of mind manic and Psychotic.. I always make ammends and say I am sorry ( and mean it) and strive to not "go there" again.

But sometimes Bipolar does cause us to say things we would never do if we were stable and in control. I'm glad your wife is supportive... make sure she knows just how much you love her..