[Dan208]

I'll try to not ramble on here. Anyway, for the past few months I had been in a pretty dark place. It was triggered by a very good (female) friend of mine moving back home, almost 1000 miles away. Long story short, I was extremely disconnected from my family and always on my phone waiting for texts from her. Some inappropriate texts and pictures were sent, which my wife ended up finding.

Luckily, she isn't the type of person to just throw away an almost 20 year relationship. We have been talking a lot this past week about things that we've never talked about before and I feel happier than I have for a very long time.

I just can't believe I almost threw my family away for someone who is technically young enough to be my daughter. I became the guy that I always said I would never be, because even though it wasn't physical, it WAS an affair.

Hopefully this new line of communication between my wife and myself will remain open, because I don't want to go back to "that place". I don't think I could survive it again and I know our relationship wouldn't make it. But, I'm dedicated to it and will make it work.

[Webgoji]

You've got some serious work to do my friend. I'm glad you're admitting what you did. Good luck from here on out.

Good that your wife stayed with you. Be grateful. But still, don't get comfortable yet. You are gonna have to rebuild that trust from the bottom up...

I'm happy that your family means so much to you. You should let them see that every day too. Especially the wife.

[Dan208]

Thank you. We both realized that we'd gotten into that rut and life just kind of started going through the motions. It just sucks that it took something like this for me to realize how much she does mean to me.

[hannabee]

I remember your other posts about this and I am happy that you have come to your senses. What a shame to have lost all that you had because of a mid life crisis. You are not alone though, I'm sure many others have experienced this, as well. Big hug and good job seeing the light.

[divine1966]

️hugs and wish you both the very best

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[~Christina]

Relationships of any time can become stagnant over time, taking things for granted etc.

A marriage is like a garden.... always needs tended to.

Good luck !