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#26
Jul 30, 2015, 10:13 PM
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To all honesty it is a red flag if someone you just met sleeps with you right away and says they want you to marry them have babies move and etc etc You have to be very alert next time if someone says these things. Plenty of reasons they might say these things and plenty of reasons they might change their mind later. You really only met her twice and second time she was already withdrawn because she already discovered things about you. So you really only had one good visit with her. In a long run its nothing. Also it is entirely possible she did think you could be a potential partner but when she discovered you did drugs and currently take some pills she changed her mind. It doesn't make her mentally ill and it doesn't make you entitled to anything. She has rights to change her mind based on new info she discovered. She decided not to date you anymore, there isn't an issue of attachments or avoidance or something you need to be doing to fix it. She broke up With you for a very specific reason and she moved on. She isn't obligated to do anything more than what she already did. People change their mind after years together. She changed hers after two meetings. It happens. I'd rather someone changed their minds after two times rather than 5 years! I know it sucks but that's the reality of life. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Last edited by divine1966; Jul 30, 2015 at 10:32 PM. |
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Aug 01, 2015, 01:48 PM
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Are online long distance relationships really relationships anyway? Any girl that is willing to date a dude long distance and. And. Be serious about it either is ugly as sin or has some serious issues. Neither of which I'd think you'd want to mess with.. Just saying
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Aug 01, 2015, 03:00 PM
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I disagree. Long distance relationships could grow into something if people regularly meet. I know people who met long distance and eventually happily married. But saying all that I wouldn't call one or two dates plus sex encounters a "relationship" let alone deep and meaningful.
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Aug 02, 2015, 08:44 AM
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Limerance was a word worthy of review in regards to the OP's concerns. |
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Aug 02, 2015, 10:23 AM
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I had limerence once. It was so brutal that it left me in shambles and so desperate that it resulted in me making many mistakes. In fact it was towards
a person I only knew him superficially. I think that what happened here. Op developed obsession over someone he barely knows and wouldn't take no for an answer. My t says when we feel so strong about someone who we either barely know or in fact are wrong for us is because our body subconsciously responds to something very familiar. Usually that comes from something unresolved in childhood. That's why it is advisable to not have sex right away as it could reinforce fake feeling of deep connection. It is an illusion Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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