[BadWolfC]

I've lost all interest in making friends near me. I moved to a new city a little over a year ago, and the only person I know is my fiance. He's kind of like me in the sense that he doesn't socialize much, but he at least has work friends. I have friends where I used to live, but I only talk to one of them on a regular basis. I just feel like there isn't a point in trying to make new friends, I only get along with certain types of people and there don't seem to be any here.

My fiance and I are moving again after we get married, and I hope it'll be better then... But I wonder if I'll still feel this way then too. I miss going out and doing fun things with friends, but at the same time I don't. Social situations are hard for me a lot of the time, and I think it's just not worth the stress to try and meet new people. I just don't know what to do... I feel like I should have friends because I used to be a lot more social than I am now, but I also feel like maybe that just isn't who I am anymore.

Can anyone else relate to this?

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by BadWolfC

I've lost all interest in making friends near me. I moved to a new city a little over a year ago, and the only person I know is my fiance. He's kind of like me in the sense that he doesn't socialize much, but he at least has work friends. I have friends where I used to live, but I only talk to one of them on a regular basis. I just feel like there isn't a point in trying to make new friends, I only get along with certain types of people and there don't seem to be any here.

My fiance and I are moving again after we get married, and I hope it'll be better then... But I wonder if I'll still feel this way then too. I miss going out and doing fun things with friends, but at the same time I don't. Social situations are hard for me a lot of the time, and I think it's just not worth the stress to try and meet new people. I just don't know what to do... I feel like I should have friends because I used to be a lot more social than I am now, but I also feel like maybe that just isn't who I am anymore.

Can anyone else relate to this?

Yes, definitely! I just don't see the point anymore. I've started to forget the person I once was. And I'm not too sure about who I am now. It's like I'm having to "get to know myself" again, because all of my interests, and things that used to be important to me have changed SO MUCH! I stay at home more now than I ever have, and have ended a "friendship" over her lies and the drama she creates. So now, I keep a small circle of TRUSTED people and have no interest in making more friends (in real life). I too have been wondering if this is going to ever get any better, or if this is just Who I Am now. In some ways, I'm more comfortable keeping to myself more, but I'm not exactly Happy with losing interest in things I used to love to do. That part I'd like to change.