[Sesiley]

So...I have hypersexuality. But I have severe cravings of being controlled...BDSM. I guess maybe it's bc it feels like someone REALLY cares.....I crave attention as well. I feel like an attention wh@re. I am. I'm a receiver, not a giver too....I just don't understand this.

Also, my husband doesn't do this kind of "need". So, I constantly think about my needs. I have told him before to. No luck.

I have had many separations bc of this. I had found my needs elsewhere, but I always go back to my husband bc I love him...I don't want to hurt him anymore....

What do to u think?
Any suggestions?
How do you feel about or what do you see?

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[forgottenmoonlight]

You aren't an attention *****. Wanting to feel like someone really cares about you isn't a problem. Everyone craves attention. I don't think the fact that you want to be controlled is a problem. I'm sorry that your husband doesn't seem to understand or care about your needs and cravings. Maybe it is something that he will never understand. In my life I have noticed that some people will never accept things simply because of the fact that they don't understand them.

It's good that you love your husband and don't want him to hurt anymore. Maybe this is something that you two can work on together. Who knows?

Nothing that you have said sparks an awful problem. I just think that this is something that you and your husband are going to really have to talk about.

I hope that everything works out!

[divine1966]

If you want bdsm and your husband doesn't like it, I think there is a bit of a problem and you can't blame him. I have no interest in bdsm and no matter if a man has those needs, I am not doing it. Did you always have that craving? Or is it new?

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[Sesiley]

No, I don't blame him. It's just hypersexuality. And I've been like this for years it only got worse. But we are working things out. It got better today as I tried to explain it again.

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[divine1966]

Are you sure it is hyper sexuality. I am very sexual yet I don't want to be dominated,

Are you in therapy? Sometimes wanting to have sex all the time is a sign of something else. I feel like this when I am in a bad emotional state. When I am emotionally satisfied I am content with less sex

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Originally Posted by Sesiley

So...I have hypersexuality. But I have severe cravings of being controlled...BDSM. I guess maybe it's bc it feels like someone REALLY cares.....I crave attention as well. I feel like an attention wh@re. I am. I'm a receiver, not a giver too....I just don't understand this.

Also, my husband doesn't do this kind of "need". So, I constantly think about my needs. I have told him before to. No luck.

I have had many separations bc of this. I had found my needs elsewhere, but I always go back to my husband bc I love him...I don't want to hurt him anymore....

What do to u think?
Any suggestions?
How do you feel about or what do you see?

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I have a female friend who is in a similar situation, only she's a pure domintrix with a lot of dark fantasies and a bisexual and her boyfriend is a pure beta who won't sate that side of her so they have an agreement to let her seek her sexual needs on other guys /girls as long as she makes him the priority.

I also am a dom with minor tendencies to sub in the BDSM department so I would feel trapped in a relationship with somebody who isn't into those types of things.

Maybe communicate with your SO? Tell him your needs and come to some sort of agreement like my female friend did?