Would you trade love for immunity to emotional pain?

I choose immunity. Already don't care if people like or love me so what's there to lose?

May I re-phrase?

People that don't choose love would prefer to be numb to feeling love which is sometimes great mixed with horrible.

You are CHOOSING a completely empty glass to one that is half full?

(And I am not saying being abused or hurt in the past is not horrible or traumatic. Because of course it is terrible.)

And may I go further and say it seems very self-defeating.

why wouldn't you choose an empty clean glass when the one you have is half full of shite? People that I established a bond with before I was 6 I'm pretty sure I love or at least a close facsimile but anyone after that.....so since I'll never have it anyway and I can't truly appreciate when someone loves me why not choose immunity?

Because you are choosing nothingness.

JMHO

Tell me if I am going to far here.

To go too far you'd REALLY have to try I love a good discussion of opinions and believe everyone should be entitled to their own

See I guess it's all in one's perspective love is not useful to me. It can't provide me with anything I can't already provide for myself BUT being immune to emotional pain.....that is useful and it's something that in 39 years I have not figured out how to do. No more crying everyday, no more hurt feelings from my bipolar unmedicated mother, no more residual horror from my night terrors, that sounds like heaven. Also it's only immunity from emotional pain not emotions so no pain and I can still be happy? Sign me up post haste

Me too, with the going too far. ^

I have emotional pain as well, but still feel love. And want to even though i haven't received a healthy love except from my children.

Does anyone have kids?

1) I'm bipolar like my mom and my grandma, while I'd like to think I handle it better than them..it's not an experiment I'd like to try.
2) I have done a lot of soul searching over this and truly believe I wouldn't love my kids...I just don't attach, that part of me is broke and that's not fair to a child.
3) When I turned 18 my mom did apologize to me...long story short she raised me like she had been raised after swearing to never raise a kid that way and the madder she got at herself the more she took it out on me. SO it's one thing to swear you won't do it but another thing to be stuck with that kid 24/7 and not revert to what you know.
4) I'm selfish and like to be able to pick up when I want and do what I want. I resent anything that doesn't allow me to do that and it can get UGLY. That's not fair to a child.

so no kids for me

No worries. I'm extra careful. I always use protection and am careful as to who I choose as a sexual partner

I couldn't agree with you more

I don't have children nor do I want children because I don't want the responsibility and I would rather keep my freedom. I want to stay single without the occasional craving for love and human connection that I have because I'm fiercely independent by nature and I basically like doing what I want, when I want, and how I want without having to answer to anybody haha.

Not to mention, I feel uncomfortable and suffocated by the thought of having to let another person in all of my inner thoughts and revealing my weaknesses to them knowing that they could turn on me at any moment. Besides, I like to keep to myself

I must say, I'm, really enjoying this thread. Keep the healthy debates and opinions coming!

How do you choose carefully with one night stands? How is it possible? You have no time to learn nothing about the person

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I haven't dated for a while because I am an independent feminist.

I am heterosexual and am bipolar. Life is pain.

Still prefer love.

Just knowing a first and last name, observing how they talk and dress, and learning about their personality can do wonders on learning about your target.

All of these things and more can be done in a matter of minutes.

Also I normally do one night stands very rarely (as in maybe once every 1-2 months) which greatly lowers my probability of having anything bad happen

Also, I don't do a lot of one night stands anymore now since my car took a crap and not having a car is considered one of the biggest turn offs where I live so I rely on 1-2 female friends that I've known for a bit for sex and mostly keep to myself and bide my time.

Women are expensive and I prefer to focus on business rather than pleasure for the time being

I'd vote to become Vulcan. Logic above all else.

Lt. Joe Kenda had it right... "What makes humans so dangerous is their emotions."

^^^This guy wins the internet.

This is exactly why I avoid being guided by emotions and prefer logic.

I would never trade the ability to love and be loved for immunity to emotional pain.

The times that I've been lonely, depressed, sad, crying, hurt, heartbroken--those are the times--those are the times that I've grown as a person.

As Maya Angelou said: Life isn't measured by the number of breaths I take, but by the moments that take my breath away. And that's love.

Goodness me, you've just described my life, I am a human robot who has lost the ability to feel my emotions, I don't get happy, excited or angry, I don't feel love for me or towards others, I do feel sad, lonely and isolated, I haven't always been this way, life experiences seem to have triggered it, and I can't get back, what I wouldn't give to feel, even painful emotions would be a blessing, so I would say treasure and embrace your emotions, they are your true self telling you something that needs to be listened too, I have lost my true self long ago.