[Xianghong]

My husband know a couple who are Jehowah Witness, after few months studying Bible with them, my husband become very trust with them, his life full with joy whenever he saw them, this is Ok to me, but the problem is that he tells everything to them about what is happening in our house, even sometimes my comments to them, my husband will get back to them, this make me very embarrasse, and I can't stand with this, I have to ask if he loves me, if he respects me! How can I do with this situation.

[I'm Worth It]

Originally Posted by Xianghong

My husband know a couple who are Jehowah Witness, after few months studying Bible with them, my husband become very trust with them, his life full with joy whenever he saw them, this is Ok to me, but the problem is that he tells everything to them about what is happening in our house, even sometimes my comments to them, my husband will get back to them, this make me very embarrasse, and I can't stand with this, I have to ask if he loves me, if he respects me! How can I do with this situation.

You tell him that it is disrespectful to share what's going on in your home with others for any reason. That is between you and him. If there is something he feels needs to be addressed or worked on, he should come to you.

Draw a line. Stand up for yourself. Tell him something like 'I love you and respect our home and relationship. I also respect your religious views and want to support you in that, however, I am embarrassed by the fact that you are bringing our home life there. I would very much appreciate it if these matters could stay between us".

I agree with what I'm Worth It said. I'd like to add that it seems as if your husband is confiding in these people as if they are therapists or counselors. A psychotherapist or doctor or minister or other professional that you might tell about details of your private life offers you confidentiality. Their profession prohibits them from telling others what you tell them.

Also, you usually are not personal friends with a therapist, etc. If you were, you could not see them for therapy.

There are people that are qualified to hear the intimate details of your husband's life if he needs someone to talk to about them. The two friends you've described are not qualified.