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Old Aug 22, 2015, 07:50 AM
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I have been doing this for years. Any one who has been reading the things I have posted is aware of what is going on. I have been trapped in an abusive relationship for many years. I have 3 kids who are starting to show the affects of the abuse as well. I have developed PTSD and I have Stockholm Syndrome from the mental and emotional abuse. I have tried to get away in the past but for one reason or another I was not successful. The Lies "I promise I will do better", the manipulating " You have no job, who is gonna you and 3 kids moving in with them, there is no way you will make it" and last but not least the begging and sad puppy dog eyes look along with "What will I do with out you, you mean you don't love me any more."

But after many many years of trying, I have gathered the strength from my friends here at PC, a few friends who do know, and relatives. Most importantly the unstoppable support and not pushing me to do what needed to be done any faster then I was comfortable with, my T.

I am in for the fight of my life, and I am fighting for MY life and my childrens lives as well. My T sent me a very supportive text and it helps keep me going. Here are her words:

"YOU WILL NATURALLY FEEL IT IS WRONG, IT IS ALSO WRONG TO LET SOMEONE ABUSE YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. THERE IS NO EASY TIME. YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN, AND I THINK YOU KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT."

Supportive yet powerful. I need you guys to pray for me in the coming days. Prayers of intersession, prayers for when I am to weak to pray for myself. To be strong, and to stand firm, and to do what must be done.

I plan on doing this Sunday or Monday evening.
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Old Aug 22, 2015, 09:02 AM
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Sending you many hugs and will be with you in spirit and thoughts while you are doing the right thing. You are strong and you have the power and control over your own life

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Old Aug 22, 2015, 09:04 AM
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Old Aug 22, 2015, 01:08 PM
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Old Aug 22, 2015, 01:25 PM
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Old Aug 22, 2015, 01:41 PM
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I left an abusive relationship 6 years ago. It took me 18 months. I had no money, no job, had a 13 yr old son and i was recovering from a suicide attempt. You can do this mama you are stronger then you give yourself credit for!
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Old Aug 22, 2015, 09:28 PM
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I have been doing this for years. Any one who has been reading the things I have posted is aware of what is going on. I have been trapped in an abusive relationship for many years. I have 3 kids who are starting to show the affects of the abuse as well. I have developed PTSD and I have Stockholm Syndrome from the mental and emotional abuse. I have tried to get away in the past but for one reason or another I was not successful. The Lies "I promise I will do better", the manipulating " You have no job, who is gonna you and 3 kids moving in with them, there is no way you will make it" and last but not least the begging and sad puppy dog eyes look along with "What will I do with out you, you mean you don't love me any more."

But after many many years of trying, I have gathered the strength from my friends here at PC, a few friends who do know, and relatives. Most importantly the unstoppable support and not pushing me to do what needed to be done any faster then I was comfortable with, my T.

I am in for the fight of my life, and I am fighting for MY life and my childrens lives as well. My T sent me a very supportive text and it helps keep me going. Here are her words:

"YOU WILL NATURALLY FEEL IT IS WRONG, IT IS ALSO WRONG TO LET SOMEONE ABUSE YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. THERE IS NO EASY TIME. YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN, AND I THINK YOU KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT."

Supportive yet powerful. I need you guys to pray for me in the coming days. Prayers of intersession, prayers for when I am to weak to pray for myself. To be strong, and to stand firm, and to do what must be done.

I plan on doing this Sunday or Monday evening.

I am happy that you were finally able to make this change for yourself. Not everyone makes it out.
We are all in your corner, hoping the best for you as you fight the impact of so many years of damaging behaviour & trauma.
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Old Aug 22, 2015, 10:27 PM
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I'm so happy for you!!! It will be a challenge but YOU CAN DO IT! God already has you and your babies in the palm of his hand. You have the support and you are ready for action! When 2 or more are gathered together in his name he is their in the midst of them! You Got This!!! Prayers Sent!
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Old Aug 22, 2015, 11:47 PM
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I'm so sorry things are not working out for you. Leaving an abusive relationship is really hard, especially when it feels like you have uncertainty on all fronts My first husband walked out on me after physically and emotionally abusing me for the 5 years we were married. I was left with a 4 year old daughter and no where to go. But I had determined that I had to make it for her sake. I just wanted to let you know that there are others of us who have faced this and we can give you emotional support.

I am sure that God has better plans for you. No woman needs or deserves to be abused
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