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Sep 06, 2015, 04:04 AM
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i have this friend whom i really like, we know eachother for around 4 years. i've been showing my feelings already from the start which turned out to be incredibly obsessive at the end. (it probs scared him off) BUT, here's the thing: 1. he is still talking to me, even tho we had alot of argues, (sometimes he blocked even blocked me and we took a break for a year or so), 2. he spends alot of time on me, considering that it's a long-distance friendship. 3. he remembered some details from our first meeting. 4. he always tries to cheer me up. 5. when i told him the first time, on our first meeting, he said "i don't know". still, he kept me close, and altho i was very clingy, he found it all okay. next time, 2 years later when we hadnt talked, i told him i loved him, still he said "ohh, um, idk.", which i make up from, that he; 1. is scared of a relationship. 2. doesnt want to reject me.
i know him very well, i know that he has troubles with facing things head-on. like, for example if he wants to defend someone, he REALLY wishes he could, but hes too scared. still, it's a really sharp guy, if he wants to say something, he says it. so he could reject me right away. what do you guys think? is there a chance of him liking me? |
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#2
Sep 06, 2015, 09:40 AM
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Honestly? It sounds like he likes you as a friend and not anything more. Like you stated, if he wants something, he will say so. Trust that and stop overanalyzing how he interacts with you. It's obvious that he is trying not to hurt you, since he is giving you vague reasons as to why he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. I would try to find a way to stop obsessing about him and move on. Are you in therapy? If not, find a therapist now! Cut off all contact with him, while you get your life together. You will not be able to move on, as long as you keep in contact with him. Save your dignity as well, before he just blocks you again. In time, you will find someone who truly wants to be with you.
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Sep 07, 2015, 05:07 AM
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After 4 years and he is not romantically interested so I'd say move on and forget about him. He isn't scared of relationships he just isn't into you. You'll find someone new soon!
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