confused

Hi all.. this is my first post here by the way.
I have a problem with my wife to be, we just recently got a baby and we are planning on getting married. I love her a lot but because of the small fights we are having like on a daily basis, I am not sure about everything now.. I'm not sure if we were meant to be together or not. I'm not sure if we both still want to be together or not. We are not talking at the moment. Must I try and fix things or must I just let it go and try moving on

Fighting on what, if I may ask? I mean is it about something trivial or important? You already had a baby with her which means you have known her for at least 9 months. What went wrong and when? Don't feel obliged to answer me.

The fact that you're able to point out that the fights are small but this makes you actually question whether you should try to fix things speaks volumes more than the line where you say you "love her a lot" Don't take this the wrong way but if you plan to get married you need to be at a point where your level of commitment is to always fix it and make thing right and not so quickly move to the idea of getting out and moving on. Commitment itself is part of showing your love for your partner.

She is probably a bit hormonal at the moment. Please cut her some slack and stop thinking you will just move on. You are a father now....you need to act like one. Are you going to be a hero or a ZERO??

I agree, Confused. There's a baby now and your first thoughts shouldn't be of moving on.

she is probably hormonal, fighting or arguing is sometimes healthy instead of holding it in. the fact that you can get your feelings out in the open is a plus. there will always be arguments in a good relationship i think, work things out and stay together.

Having a baby and planning for a wedding are huge life events and cause stress for both parties in a relationship. Why aren't you talking? Did she pull away or did you pull away or was it a mutual thing? I think its good to take a little step back for a day or two and then revisit the issues when you both have calmer heads, but if it goes on for a while, that's not healthy.

You are taking on a lot here, both of you. You both need to be patient and allow yourselves to adjust to the new one in your lives.

When you do start talking and if things even begin to get a little heated, you simply say "I'm getting upset now, can we come back to this in an hour or so? It's important to diffuse things as soon as they get heated. If it's something little and not that significant in the overall scheme of things, give in once in a while. Don't sweat the small stuff.