Unidentifiable Social Problem?

I felt like digging up this thread again since I stumbled on somethign called social skills training, and started reading up on it. It sounds interesting and potentially helpful, if I can get it.

In general, I never considered it a big deal. If anything, it's something almost interesting about me. And besides, I've encountered people who changed schools a lot and came out perfectly socially adjusted - they use the circumstances to learn to make fast friends, apparently. My personality doesn't work that way, and I guess I just sort of...gave up. Because I was thinking lately, I did have a few friends when I was very young, 6-7 years old, before I started school-hopping so much.

Also, I wonder if it means anything that I only hopped schools. I lived in the same home my entire life, I just was constantly being shunted off to different schools because the education where I live sucks, and my mom's big on education.

I don't even live in the house, but she calls me at least 5 times a day, either pestering me until I reply to a single question, or just talking about crap that I don't care about, or to repeat herself, or wanting me to "check in" so she "knows I'm not dead". She did this while I was at school too; everyone else could only talk to their parents once every couple of weeks, I basically had to (but refused to) call or text every day.

Even while I lived at home she wouldn't leave me alone - he would come into my room and talk at me for what accumulated to a couple hours a day, and it was always the same things, none of which I needed to hear or even cared about. Sometimes she'd come in as many as 20 times a day (do you know how hard it is to read when you have to stop and look at someone every 10 minutes?); sometimes she'd get me up super early or in the middle of the night to talk. In fact, the day I had my first "breakdown" she basically hadn't let me sleep, waking me up every couple of hours. I tried to shove her out of my room, she threatened to break my arms if I touched her again. It was bad.

The point is all I want is for her to leave me alone except for important things. That's all I ever wanted. Nope. I don't answer my phone if it's going off every 20 minutes. I'm not putting up with that. So she's cutting me off everything because she "doesn't know if I'm alive or not" when I refuse to talk to her. Keep in mind, I don't live in her house; I'm like, 10, 20 miles away. Yet she demands to know where I am at all times. I want to kill things over this sometimes, it infuriates me so much.

Basically I can talk to her constantly or she can sever all ties personally and legally and start getting counseling about the "death of a child". Because, you know, letting your 21-year-old have a life of her own without your constant involvement is impossible.

Holy frick, that turned into a rant. Sorry.

not all, it was very enlightening.

Gosh, mom is a bit of a case isn't she then. I would not answer all of her calls. Maybe reply at the end of the day in one longer text. As long as you keep responding she will continue to invade your days.

I have had to bluntly tell my mother to top calling me so much. And I am 50. LOL You should tell her the same.