[Lionsheart1997]

I really like this girl . she says she likes me too. We kiss , hug, and cuddle but she says were unofficial. She says we might become official but she doesn't know when shell be ready to be a girlfriend again. My heart and head hurt thinking about it. I'm not sure how to handle it.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by Lionsheart1997

I really like this girl . she says she likes me too. We kiss , hug, and cuddle but she says were unofficial. She says we might become official but she doesn't know when shell be ready to be a girlfriend again. My heart and head hurt thinking about it. I'm not sure how to handle it.

She's given you hope in saying that you might become a couple. Take that to heart and don't ruminate or obsess over the fact that you're not yet. The relationships that are worth it are worth waiting for. Rushing into being exclusive and as you call it "official", is just asking for heartache, especially when right now she has made it clear she needs time. Give her that time. If you truly care about this girl and want to be with her, then without question, this is what you should do. Be patient!!!! She likes you, everything in what she's said, makes that clear. Her reasons for hesitation are not to do with you, but that she needs time. After all she kisses, hugs, cuddles with you and obviously likes your affections. focus on those things and continue as you have been.

[vonmoxie]

Being gentle with one another's pacing is, I think, an essential part of building a good relationship's foundation, because while people can be well matched it's hardly possible for each person's needs around pacing to happen to be perfectly matched. We're all coming from different bodies of experience and perceive the process somewhat differently. Rising to the opportunity to show genuine patience with one another's needs around pacing tends to result in great benefits in the long run, in my experience.

[eskielover]

In society today, there is a push to become a couple & immediately the push to have sex before ever really getting to know one another. She is being wise & looking out for herself above all else.

If the chemistry is there it will continue to grow....if not, she's wise not to get involved at a more intimate level & keeping the relationship at this level is a good way to do that.

Don't push....if a relationship happens it will grow naturally.

[healingme4me]

Agree with these replies. Needing time seems healthy. Can be about taking time to adjust to getting to know you, know herself, and know how this fits into life.