[jefftele]

i had a long 27 year marriage which was cruelly ended by my ex ,long story, very painful , it naturally left me saddened by the way people we love can treat us so badly. i said to myself (after an awful) rebound relationship that i was staying single as with depression i feel relationships are harder than they have to be.i'm not so shut off to think that i'd never meet anyone as i feel i'm an ok person but i never thought i'd fall for a married woman. all my alarm bells, all my past experience of helping others relationships has flown out of my mind -- i know that there is no way i'd get involved i only ask the question why, the easy answer is why not!!!

[sabby]

Maybe you feel there is a "safety" so to speak in falling for a married, otherwise attached woman???

I think you can expect more hassles than it's worth in the long run though. Even if you start off feeling safer in this relationship, sooner or later there seems to be a time when you will want more than she can give you.

I hope you keep yourself safe hon. I don't want you to be hurt again. Please be careful with your heart...it is yours to take care of!

Hugsssss
J

please, please be careful about becoming involved with someone who is married. the emotional baggage will weigh you down, as you struggle with your wants and your "moral fiber"..........hang in there, someone will find you!!! xoxox pat

[SpringStar]

Your alarm bells are there for a reason,

think long and hard on this one............. for the pleasure and pain.

But most of all be true to yourself

[bebop]

been there done that. wow talk about a war inside you! whew! you want them with you and not with their families all the time and it just does not happen. when you want/need to spend time with them they are not available at all. family stuff happens that they have to be there just when you need them most. please take it from a fool and don't get involved.

[Direction]

Good advice...please read it often to remind yourself why you don't want to get involved with this type of woman.

[TYMBERWOLV]

jeff,

I too find myself in the same spot that ur in ... I want so much to be in a relatiionship that I find myself attratced to the safe bets cos I know that I could never go further than my " Moral Fiber " allows me too. So I play and kid around ...

I find myself tormented all the times so I had to remove myself entirely from the situation

Stay strong my friend my ear is always open so u can bend it

Tymber

[jefftele]

thanks i DOOOO know the right thing to do and that is not even go there ,i'm aware of the safety of the other who is involved with someone else thing i was aware of the dynamics ,it just seems that life has dealt me yet another cruel trick, if there is a creator i'm not with them on their sense of humour on this one !! thanks all .i know how to keep myself safe - stay single!! xx

[jefftele]

when the heart rules the head --for a short while it is near impossible to think straight ,not that i do anyway!!!!! a song has come to me relevant to my situation and to all others drawn to difficult scenarios ---walk on by!!!!!!

[SpringStar]

Great to see you are getting your head around this one.

The song I know is....... <font color="red"> Spring Singing</font><font color="blue"> just walk on by.... wait at the corner...I love you but we're strangers when we meet...." "la la la</font>

I'm sure thats not the song your thinking of... Is it

Take care and remember somethings are sent to try us....

Just wait and see whats around the corner

[crushed73]

jeff go read my post.. we are both in hell.. if u need a friend im here. im having a hard time dealing on a day to day basis.