[oceansoftime]

Me and another girl have been working together for 8 yrs. We have always been friends and get along great even though we don't work in the same department we chat through out the day and we are Facebook friends.

She came to me with her cell phone and show me a rather inappropriate message from my husband to her. Co-workers and spouses are all friends on Facebook so I know they were friends. The message tells her how "yummy" she looks with her new hair colour/cut.

She was very upset and mortified. I felt very embarrassed and kept apologizing to her. I couldn't speak to him all night, I was too angry and our grandchildren came over for a visit.

I don't know what to say to him and now I feel a bit weird towards her. She told me that she wouldn't respond to him.

And my dad died last week. I hate him!

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[WifeofBPD]

I admit...I read this post and had no clue what to say... I'm guessing its the same for the 40-ot other people that have looked at it.

All I can think to say is that you need to sort through your feelings and talk to your husband. If you don't you will become resentful and build things up until they explode. Stay away from accusations or insinuations. Be calm, cool and collected, speaking honestly and listen just as earnestly. If he doesn't want to talk or becomes negative, do not let it get you into a tizzy. It takes two to argue and if you remove yourself from the situation, there is no argument.

I wish you the best of luck.
~Seanachai~

Get co-worker to take a screen shot of his text and send it to you. Send it to him. Saying we need to talk. Passive aggressive? Maybe. At least you have the proof of his actions.

[Trippin2.0]

I agree with shawkat, send him the screenshot, and ask him to please explain himself so that you know how to process this new info...

[~Christina]

I agree screenshot, Proceed from there.