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I had a feeling it was a mandate...one I probably would require too...

I think Tymber has a good point. Step back...there really is no hurry...right?

As for her calling - what would be the point...She may have had to endure this before...we never really will know the full truth. What she knows is probably enough to know. what you know is probably enough too.

Crushed,

I would have to agree with Direction what is the necessity for you to speak with the spouse ... If I was the spouse I would be really upset with you cos of this action ... Second what has happened has happened this man wasn't truthfull towards you not this woman..

As for staying for the kids that not an excuse anymore cos withe the court systems fathers still have rights

Point Blank the boi was caught with his hand in the cookie jar and now he is being slapped for it... Sorry Sweetie really am but ummm I think there are better people out there

Tymber

and there's more cookie jars than one! and he's already opened the lid to another one and who knows what he got out of that one? and he called it an ego thing? what does he call you to the other cookie?

i was the married woman who was cheated on. a friend told me about the affair.

i think that calling her and telling her is just trying to transfer some of your guilt/pain onto her.......and you know what, their problems are theirs. not yours. not at all.

you were a sexual distraction for him. men and women frequently are not about to 'fess up to their part in the destruction of a relationship. it's so much easier to say "it's her fault" and then when push comes to shove, "i can't leave my dear little children"........

suck it up, move on and get some serious therapy.

p.s. what kind of respect do you have for a married man who exposes his two year olds (his very important children") to the woman he's sleeping with on the side? and to flaunt it around town? come on......

Crushed.....

I think one of the most important ingredients in a relationship is TRUST.

You can not trust someone who lies and you know he is lying to his wife.

It happens too many times this man wants his cake and eat it as well.

Think of this he is not going to leave his wife.

1. Hes has said because of the children (phewy as we know the court systems give father rights)

2. His wife works hard to provide and support their relationship and he is in a good paddock.

I'm sorry...but you have to get that man out of your system and make a commitment to yourself that married men are OFF the dating list.............

Take care
SpringStar

thank you for all your replies.. i agree BUT easier said than done and you are right i dont know the truth.. it is frustrating though as it seems everyone hurting but him .. i mean he says he is but who knows.. i am getting therapy as i want to know why i am drawn to these relationships as well. I am going to be posting some other threads as it seems i have so much going on i cant keep up with just this either.

Not that I want to sympathize for him...I'm guessing since he is on the edge about to loose everything that he's in pain...guilt...confusion...

Sometimes we hide it all...just think about how much I have hid

So don't get trapped by your anger or allow yourself to feel like everyone but him is hurting...

ok so i been doing a little better and went out this weekend. Meeting lots of SINGLE men but i am missing the ex. I am having side effects from my xanax i was taking and feeling all over the map.. I am sad and just wondering if anyone else is feeling like crap today too.

((((((((crushed))))))))

Hope you feel better soon, breakups are so unbelievably rough.

thank you.. today was rough. I had to go to his place of work where he proceeded to ignore me. It hurt me so bad. I am devastated today.

Remember true character comes out in separations whether it be work or personal...

You deserve to be treated well...sorry it was a rough day...

I agree Direction sometimes ordeals like this does give us character thruout our lives

I understand that seperations are horrible but I always believe that what God takes away that he giveth back better...

Crushed as i told you I will be friend when in need take care of yourself

Keep your chin up a rainbow is on the otherside sweetie

Tymber