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Oct 20, 2015, 10:42 AM
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I have been together with my wife for 3 years and married for 2 years. But she never show support in marriage life and not doing anything for future. We had a lots fights over the time but since it was love marriage I can't tell anything to my parents. She threatened me for suicide if i leave her. Recently i got in touch with a woman who really in love with me and vice a versa. Eventually my wife found out 2 months ago and she kept threatened me same thing doing suicide. I would have done divorce if she wouldn't have threatened me. I am just in unhealthy relationship where neither my wife nor me happy. The other woman the i am in love with want to be with me as well but she keeps convincing me to be with my wife but i only know how is my marriage life going.
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Oct 20, 2015, 02:51 PM
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Hello Moon11: I have to admit I had some difficulty understanding what you are getting at in your post. As I understand it, you're in a marriage that is unhappy for you. Your wife is threatening to commit suicide if you leave her. You've now met, or at least are in touch with, another woman who loves you & whom you love. But she is encouraging you to stay with your wife. I typically do not give advise, here on PC. But, since you ask, I'll offer my thoughts with regard to your situation, as I understand it.
My thinking with regard to this is that, first you need to separate out the relationship with your wife from the one you have with this other woman. Ideally, I'd suggest that you & your wife get into some marriage counseling so the two of you can come to some conclusion as to where your marriage is going, if anywhere. Your wife is using the possibility of suicide as a way of keeping you in the marriage. Ultimately you are not responsible for what she does or does not choose to do. On the other hand, I certainly understand that you don't want to feel responsible for what she might do, if anything. You either want to figure out a way to make your marriage work, or end it on as positive a footing as possible. Once you & your wife figure out what course your marriage is going to take, if divorce becomes the final decision, then if this other woman is still in your life & is still interested then the two of you can see if you have a future together. Does this make sense? From my perspective, you simply cannot deal with this all at once. It's just too complicated. If your wife will not agree to enter into marriage counseling with you, then I would suggest that you seek some individual counseling / therapy for yourself, if you can get it. This will at least give you the chance to talk this whole situation through with an objective professional. I wish you all the best...
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Oct 20, 2015, 08:07 PM
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Your wife is holding you hostage. The next time she threatens suicide, call 911. Yes, I'm being serious. ALL suicide threats need to be taken seriously. This way you are doing what you can to help her and if something does happen, you've covered your bases. It's not your job to keep her alive. She's an adult and needs to take responsibility for herself.
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Oct 21, 2015, 11:42 AM
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Last edited by IceCreamKid; Oct 21, 2015 at 12:01 PM. |
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Oct 22, 2015, 01:59 PM
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Thank you so much for your advice. I am really in bad situations right now. I try to be happy with my wife just to avoid any tragedy but i know that I can't love her forcefully anymore. The other woman is badly in love with me and me too. But just don't know how to get out of this. My wife slaped me when she found out about my affair with another woman, but i stayed calm just so she won't do anything wrong after that.
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Oct 22, 2015, 02:02 PM
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I also once threatened her to call 911 but when i told her, she was like if you do, i will kill my self. She even not letting me to share information with her parents. We had love marriage so i know that in todays wolrd, every blames goes to men. I can't cried out my heart to anyone because i know everyone going to believe her since i have affair but no one understands why i have affair.
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